Post # 1
Im quite confused about this name change business! i dont know if it makes a difference, but we live and are getting married in mexico.
so my surname is taylor, and his surname is portales llanas
I know theoretically sometimes people use the De, giving me Jessica Taylor de Portales. but in practice would i just still be known as jessica taylor? i dont know if people really use the ‘de’ or not?
and i would be Mrs Jessica Taylor/ i assume so? so keep the maiden name but add a mrs? i also assume i wouldnt change my name on any official documents in that case? (well, not sure how i would manage to do that from mexico anyway since i think id need to be in england)
Post # 3
If you are going by Mexican usage conventions, you will be “Jessica Taylor, Sra. de Portales,” and you will use either “Taylor” or “de Portales” depending on the formality of the occasion.
Or, you would be just fine choosing how you want to be addressed according to what feels right for your own cultural background.
Post # 4
@jessitaylor: I personally am not a fan of “de”. i just feel like it refers to us as property so I don’t like it. I’m not sure how it works in Mexico but in U.S. you can change it to whatever you like. Jessica Portales Taylor. Jessica Taylor Portales……
I took my husbands last name and removed mine. His last name is DeAnda. so i’m now Mrs. DeAnda people think i added the de. ugh. that’s what i get for always complaining about it.
Post # 5
i dont mind the De, but i guess i dont know whether id introduce myself that way when in England (bizarre to wonder about this since im there one week a year or less!)
I seem to be unusual, there are so many bees not wanting to take their husbands name, and i really want to. i guess i remember being a teenager doodling jessica + surname of whatever boy i was seeing and dreaming about the future! but i think itd be seen as kind of odd here if i starting calling myself jessica portales
All the married mexican women i know kept their own names on facebook but no idea if thats for convenience or convention. I think in england you can change it to whatever you like too (well i think so)
Post # 6
using de is what is done in mexico and yes it sort of means u become his property lol – its an old tradiotion but logistically it works as a hyphen. Your new name would be Mrs. Jessica Taylor de Portales or Mrs. Jessica Portales for short. traditionally the maiden name was retained to show what family you come from. I use the de because i am very attached to my maiden name but wanted to respect the marriage tradition of name changing. Either way you would be Mrs. Portales in mexico or the us 😀 good luck
Post # 7
@jessitaylor: im taking my finaces last name also but im not adding De, i dont like the whole idea of like being property to anyone.