(Closed) Changing Name after Marriage

posted 6 years ago in Traditions
  • poll: Best new surrname
    Murray-Liu : (17 votes)
    44 %
    Murrayliu : (1 votes)
    3 %
    Murray Liu : (4 votes)
    10 %
    MurrayLiu : (1 votes)
    3 %
    Murray-liu : (1 votes)
    3 %
    Miu : (4 votes)
    10 %
    Liu Murray : (4 votes)
    10 %
    Liu-Murray : (4 votes)
    10 %
    Other Please explain : (3 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Your maiden name and then his last name, but don’t hyphenate. 

    Post # 5
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    11343 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I, personally, am not a big fan of hyphenated last names, simply because they tend to be so long, and they create potentially greater challenges for future generations (i.e., if Jane Smith and John Doe marry and become Jane and John Smith-Doe, what do their children do if they want to hyphenate their names when they grow up and marry, and so on.)

    I was very attached to my maiden name, because I did not marry until I was in my mid-to-late 40s and had a lengthy, successful career under my maiden name.  However, I am also very traditional and knew that I would definitely take my husband’s last name. I originally wanted to keep all four of my names: first, middle, maiden-as-second-middle, hislast.  However, I was unable to do this in my state.  Ultimately, I decided to choose the formal, traditional route that women in the U.S. have used to change their names:  I dropped my given middle name, took my maiden name as my new middle name, and took my DH’s last name.  So, my new name is in the form of Jane Smith Doe, and I absolutely love it. My former identity remains obvious, and Darling Husband and I (and his children and any potential future children we would have together) are all able to share the same last name. I don’t know if you’ve considered this as an option, but I just wanted to mention this.

    Post # 6
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    Buzzing bee

    I like the murray first, but it is a lot of syllables when together.

    was Murliu an option? If not I choose Murrayliu with no space. 

    Post # 7
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    352 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @Brielle:  This is what I did also and LOVE it.

    Post # 8
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    11343 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    @Tina.Baker:  I know! It’s so fun, isn’t it? 🙂

    Post # 9
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    577 posts
    Busy bee

    I voted Murray Liu, but I guess it’s just odd to me that your husband would change his name as well. I’m pretty traditional about that kind of stuff though. Is it common for the man to also take his wife’s name nowadays? 

     

    Post # 10
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I would put your maiden name first (hyphen) and his last name

    Post # 12
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    176 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    @Brielle:  I will be doing the same! I would miss having my maiden name as a part of me. 

    Post # 13
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    706 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @lapetitefleur100:  We did the same thing!  I had the same feeling.  I don’t really believe in changing my name just because, so I gave Darling Husband two options:  either we keep our names or we both change our names.  We ended up both hyphenating Hisname-Myname because it sounded better that way.

    The biggest pushback has been from his family (they are pretty traditional).  My family thinks its awesome, and everyone we’ve told since has been surprised but really supportive.  We’ve heard no negatives (other than from his family), though we wouldn’t really care.  It’s the decision that made the best sense for us.  Most people think its pretty cool.

    Post # 14
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I’m in this boat too… Thinking of using my maiden name, hyphen, my married name.

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