Post # 1
Unfortunately due to a Venue Issue that is out of our control we have to change our wedding date after we sent out our save the dates JUST last week!! my wedding date is suppose to be on 11/8/14 and now we have to change our date to March! My Bridesmaids dresses and my Dresses are already ordered! so I can’t cancel the wedding! I was so upset and hurt that I was just going to cancel everything and just go to the courthouse! 🙁 but I know everything happens for a reason. BUT what do I do? do I send out new save the dates, or just send out emails. Im so upset and really don’t want to make it look like we are not organized or serious about having our wedding?
Post # 2
Hiswife2be: First thing to remember is that this isn’t the end of the world and no reason to cancel everything. A save the date is just that–it isn’t an invitation. Things happen for a reason, and you cannot change that. I am not sure proper etiquette around informing guests, so hopefully someone can shed some light. If it were me, I’d send an e-mail to those that can accept them because you will be able to put an “due to unforseen circumstances” portion in there so they know to ignore the other save the date.
Post # 3
I would just send a new save the date with a note explaining the situation(if you want). I don’t think anyone will judge you for it, especially if it is out of your control.
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX
Hiswife2be: I’m sure this is so so stressful, but it will be ok! You just sent the Save-The-Date Cards out so people probably haven’t booked flights yet. If I were you I would start emailing/calling people immediately about the new date. I would also send out new paper save the dates and put on there that the date has changed.
Post # 5
You put down a deposit on a venue, and then they forced you to change the date? If that’s what happened, I would definitely be demading a steep discount from the venue.
Good luck, take a deep breath, I’m sure your March wedding will still be lovely.
Post # 6
canadajane: I agree! They should be footing the bill for this inconvenience….
Post # 7
canadajane: Yes! The company forgot to book my date!! 🙁 He was VERY apologetic and offered to refund my deposit or for me to have my wedding on the next available date which is in March and the only thing I would have to pay is my Deposit! Keep in mind this is a Destination package in Florida where EVERYTHING is included so bascially it will be saving me $2,500 🙂
So that is the only reason why I have decided to stick with this company and move my date because I will be saving alot of money. Plus I don’t want to start over and have to find another company!
Post # 8
eeek! I would just resend new ones or send a follow up note saying the date has changed.
Post # 9
This stress would be worth more than $2,500 (for me). I’d demand a bigger discount, like maybe some discounts on the rooms for your guests.
Post # 10
I’m so sorry!! As if wedding planning wasn’t stressful enough! I really believe in making the best out of these types of situations (once you’ve worked through how you feel, of course!) so maybe you could do something fun or silly to announce the change of the date? Maybe like an, OOPSIES save the date where you scratch out the old date and highlight the new one? Of course, explain it wasn’t in your control and your family and friends will totally understand!
Post # 11
Hiswife2be: ok so don’t cancel everything! But also can you try to get your deposit back since you have issues with this venue and find a different venue in the same area? If you have already had issues with this venue do you really want to have them a part of this All of the way Until March? Also if you don’t change the venue I would ask that they give you a big enough discount to offset the cost of sending out new Save the dates.
Post # 12
I agree with the pp who said she would make the best of it. I would send out
“CHANGE THE DATE”
postcards that you can print yourself or get done at Vistaprint.
That way you can mention that dues to circumstances beyond your control you are re-scheduling the wedding.
You can probaby find stock pictures on the internet. Place a pic of a couple bundled up for winter on the left with a circle and a line across it , and a spring pic with a red check mark over it.
Overlay the wording at the bottom of the postcard.
Post # 13
Yes, just send new Save-The-Date Cards ASAP. You could word it “Save the (NEW) Date”
Post # 14
Thanks Everyone!!! This really helped ALOT!!!
Post # 15
- Wedding: March 2016 - Wedge wood San Ramon
I had a friend that had similar issue… Just called everyone or sent new cards to let them new date. No big deal ppl will understand.