Post # 1
Hey Fellow Bees!
Please help! I am happily engaged to a man who I love dearly. My biggest issue is facebook, honestly I cannot stand it. On my page, I do not have my status. I use it to keep up with people from high school and things of that nature but now, more and more people keep asking me to update my status. ITS GETTING ON MY LAST NERVE. I just got engaged on my birthday a couple of weeks ago and I do not even wear my ring to work (work in the state pen) so people are just baffled that I refuse to change my status. My Fiance does not even use facebook and they cannot understand it.
ICING on the cake,
The person who is bugging me the worst about updating it and posting pictures…… WAIT FOR IT…….. MY FATHER!
Post # 3
Ugh! I know how you feel. Sometimes I change my status to “single” as joke – for example, one time when my Fiance wouldn’t shave, I said that I was “breaking up with him.” The only people who noticed or cared about my change was my family; my friends all knew that I must be joking. If it were me, I would just change it to appease people and not be bothered by them any more.
Post # 4
Hmm… I wonder if he wants you to update just to show everyone how his kid has it together, etc. Everyone always uses FB to judge how people are doing. Like I guess if you don’t update for a while people think something’s wrong, or if you don’t do this or that people think you’re breaking up with your SO. I think you’re right to just not update and leave it be– it would actually be in your character to do so, nothing out of the ordinary since you don’t ever update it!
Post # 5
If you can’t stand facebook why are you on it?
Post # 6
If your not a fan, I suggest deactivating your account. So when people ask, you can say you don’t have one anymore & then they can stop pestering.
Post # 7
I have mine set to “In a Relationship” and we’ve been engaged since August. I haven’t changed more for reasons of privacy (but now that I think about it, I can hide that info if I want). The people that I want to know, know. If you don’t want to change it than you don’t have to!
It is funny that your dad wants you to change it! Have you asked him why it’s a big deal?
Post # 8
I don’t think this is worth stressing over.
Post # 9
Mine only says “In a relationship” too. And we have been engaged pretty much forever. The people that need to know we are engaged (ie. the people actually invited to the wedding) know about it, otherwise, they don’t need to know. I didn’t want 35 friends coming out of the woodworks expecting invitations. They’ll know we are engaged when they see the wedding photos that other people will inevitably post.
Facebook doesn’t need to know my every move.
Post # 11
We never changed our status. Mostly because we didn’t want people hounding us about being engaged and asking if they were invited to the wedding.
The funniest thing was when I saw an old friend of mine and he noticed my engagement ring and said “what?! I must not have been on facebook that day!” ..hello people not all of us live our lives on facebook!
Post # 12
It’s a good way to notify people you normally don’t have day to day contac with, but i agree with the fact that I don’t want them to know every detail. If I decide to post pics I’ll make it so only certain people can see it. (adjust privacy settings, i mean) I’m not the kind of person that has their e-ring as a profile pic.
Post # 13
We got engaged in November and I didn’t get around to changing my status until June. Tell them to leave you alone!
Post # 14
My father LIVES on facebook and calls me every Sunday to give me the scoop, I think he wants to use it as a way to tell everyone but since the only thing that is set is stone is where we are getting married and the date, why bother? I keep the facebook for friends, family, and classmates. I believe that I should have to change the status to let everyone know about my relationship. Its to the point where I just might deactivate it or just change it when I get married :o) I just find it scary that my father is the one pestering me about it. He is started to be a dadzilla, my mom on the other hand is cool and just wants me to be able to live after the wedding!
Post # 15
haha! Oh man, certainly icing on the cake since DAD is after you !
I didn’t even put I was in a relatiosnhip/or offer any information about it.
Once I’m married ill just change the name. People on facebook should know who I am , and don’t need to be told that I have a fiance and we are getting married in a few months- they know him perosnally and will most likely be at the wedding.
Its funny how serious people take FB!
Post # 16
It is very interesting that your dad is the one pestering you. Us “older” folks really do use FB to brag about our kids and keep up with family.
I didn’t display any status at all while I was single or engaged. I didn’t feel the general public needed to know about my romantic life. My close friends and family already knew about my then Fiance because we had a relationship with them outside of FB. Also, I’m a big hypothetical worrier so I didn’t want to say I was engaged and then somehow the wedding would get called off and I would have to answer questions on FB. The day after the wedding Darling Husband both changed our FB status to married (to each other). My Out of Town family immediately started sending him friend requests.
If your dad just wants others to know his daughter is engaged he should post the news himself. Maybe he can upload a pic of you two to go with his post.