Post # 1
I suppose this isn’t that bad, and I doubt I’m the only bride to go through it but I feel rather upset about it.
My mister and I changed our date. The original date was July 31st, 2010 but due to the fact we’re living in different cities we decided to change it to the date we actualy starting dating instead as to only have one aniversary to remember; January 29th, 2011.
We haven’t sent out save the dates or anything like that, but we had made a facebook group and he did message the whole group with the date change. I don’t know why but I feel like a failure for having to push the date back six months. I know it’s what’s most convinent for us, but it still really seems to suck.
Anyone else feel like this after pushing their date back?
Post # 3
We have to push our date back from April 10, 2010 to sometime in either Sept or Oct 2010. I don’t feel so much like a failure per se, but I’m annoyed.
It was my idea to push it back – my husbands brother started a new job and cannot get paid time off from work in April so I decided that for his sake, we’d postpone. Doesn’t mean it’s not dissappointing.
Post # 4
We are now working on our THIRD date – first one was our aniversary on June 27th – it feel on a Saturday so I figured hey, we will only have to remember one date and since he already knows that one, why not? Then it was september 19th – which is 9/19/09 – figured that would be pretty easy for him not to mess up – now it’s on 11/29/09 – and that is only because it’s a Sunday and it’s a holiday weekend so I can take time off from work, but my daughter doesn’t have to miss any days of school. With the budget and moving and everything, I’m VERY tempted to move it again – but I don’t think he will go for it. I’m totally ok with putting it off for another six months, but I think he will kill me. Maybe you could talk him in to let him know that an additional six months is a good thing??
There are 79 days until my “big day” and other then having my dress, I have done NOTHING! So embrace the extra time!! Use it to do all the little things that we all put off until the end and then end up either not doing or just not sleeping to get done!
Post # 5
You didn’t mention the reason why you had to push it back – but, perhaps is that why it’s making you feel like a failure? Or is it just because you told other people the original date?
I’m in a similar boat where we had to move it from Spring 2010 to Fall 2010. In a very odd way, it actually feels nice to have the extra time to plan and decide. Our venue wasn’t available for the date we picked, and it took me awhile to embrace the new date… but now I’m excited about it.
Hopefully with some time, the new date will sink in and feel just as great as the first one did!
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2010 - Stage 6 Steiner Studios
Think of it as more time to plan and better yet, more time to enjoy being engaged. By pushing it to January, you’ll have an anniversary that is even more significant than your original one.
Post # 7
That sucks but it’s better than being married and living apart I guess! It’s not a lot of fun lemme tell ya =]. Now you have TWO things to look forward to!!!