(Closed) Changing the date…

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
7295 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@Miss Tattoo:  i can understand that it is silly to you, but i can also completely understand why your Fiance wants to change it.  now that he has this knowledge about little brother, it is associated in his mind and he doesn’t want anything to taint his wedding day and future anniversaries with YOU!  he wants it to be only about you and him. so if its really not a big deal to change it, then i would just do it.  i  had to change my date several times because it was complicated organizing a destination wedding to suit a bunch of family members who we wanted to come.  so i get that you were “used” to saying one date!!  but trust me, it is still so far away that you will soon become attached to your new date!

Post # 4
76 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We had a date picked out and moved it by a day to make it more accommodating for guests. That was hard enough since I got used to the date and liked the way it sounded. Now, we have some family related things to take care of, and we cannot pick a date until they are resolved. I hate not knowing when the wedding will be, and of course it makes it difficult to make any concrete plans. I feel for you. I do understand his feelings though. What I keep telling myself about my particular situation is that it’s just a date. We know the day is coming when we will be married. If it’s a Saturday, a Tuesday, the 7th or the 27th – it doesn’t matter. All that matters is that the day IS coming and when it gets here, we’ll be man and wife. Try to focus on that. It might make things a little easier.

Post # 5
3670 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I agree that I understand why he wants to change it because of the bad relationship with his brother but I also understand that it isn’t fun to have to change the date.  We had the date of January 22 for about a year and then in August had to change it to March 6 because of finances.  I also agree though that you’ll become attached to your new date soon.  I now love the thought of March 6.  

Post # 6
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

although im guessing your FI’s little brother was, well little and not a mature adult im hoping things will one day be sorted out between them. in the meantime i would also change the date just because Fiance asked for it to be done, i see your wedding isnt until 2012 so hopefully you dont have anything locked in

and yes we changed our date but because we eloped and brought the wedding forward

Post # 7
3364 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I picked out 09/10/11 but he said he wouldnt because it was too close to 9/11!

We went from November to September to October to November and ended up booking a December Date! lol! And not til 2011! lol It seems so far away but we need it to save!

If its important to him, change it! JUST in my opinioin I dont  find the back story an excuse and who am I to judge, because I dont know your FI  but sounds like resentment and hurt. I hope and pray he finds it in his heart to forgive his brother someday! Shit happens, you get over it, you live and you learn!


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