(Closed) Changing the date drama… vent! (super long)

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
186 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

i’m really sorry you are having to go through this.  my bet would be, honestly, that this ‘hawaii wedding’ doesn’t happen.  for one, divorces take a long time to get finalized.  so how is she to know when she can set her destination wedding date?  not to mention by that time she may have a little one in her arms. 


Post # 4
89 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I agree. The Destination Wedding probably won’t happen. She’ll be a new mom by then and 100% of her attention will be on the baby amd Hawaii is expensive.  Wouldn’t the baby be more of a financial and emotional priority than a destination wedding?

Post # 5
7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I would stand firm on your date, and tell her you aren’t changing, and your sorry if she feels that marrying her bf of 4 months is more important then you marrying your bf of 10 years

Post # 6
163 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

It seems like for the moment none of you are actually planning a wedding, so until either actually has a date set I don’t think it’s fair for either of you to ask the other to postpone! If she wants to get married next year it’s a bit unfair of you to call dibs on three separate months just because you are unsure and want to keep your options open!

I suggest you reach a decision fast and then let her know once it’s set. And if she sets it first, then you’ll need to decide if you still want your wedding to be in the same month or not.

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