(Closed) Changing the date for a 3rd time?! Please advise I am stressed!

posted 8 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

Wow – you don’t think that your brother could talk to his coaches and let him know that his sister is getting married, so he’ll have to miss a game? Before you switch the date again, I would have him talk with his coaches about it. It’s far enough in advance that they should be able to make an exception for him. If they can’t, then it’s time to reconsider. But it’s a little unreasonable for them to not allow him to miss a football game for his sisters wedding.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

HUGS!  Super sorry you’re dealing with this!

Personally, I probably wouldn’t change my date.  I would try to work something out with the timing of the event on Saturday to maybe work around the football schedule.  But as it’s a year out, they usually don’t announce the schedule too far n advance, much less the time until shortly before the season starts (and with some games the time is TBA until the week of). 

I could understand if he was like a key player at a very large school and was potentially looking at going pro, where missing 1 game would be significant.  But from your post it would appear that that’s not exactly the case.  I’ve never heard of a coach requiring attendance, perhaps that is just your brother’s view of the situation?  Perhaps discussing the issue with the board of directors or the Athlectic Director the policy could be clarified?

-Good Luck with everything!

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I probably wouldn’t change the date, either. Just set it, announce it, and let people set their schedules around it–everyone’s got a year! 

As for your brother, it may very well be true that his coaches don’t allow the players to miss any games. I was a college athlete and had to negotiate heavily just to miss one practice in order to attend my sibling’s wedding. But, with all this advance notice, maybe the coaches can just plan to have someone else substitute for your brother that day. Your brother will have to work extra hard, though, to ensure that he doesn’t simply get replaced by whomever subs for him!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

This is a once in a lifetime event, his SISTER is getting married, he may need to think about which is more important. With this much advance notice he can most likely talk to his coaches and work something out.   I wouldnt switch now that you have a date set especially if it works out for you and your FI!  Don’t worry, everything will work out fine.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m sorry you’re going through this.  I would ask him to speak with his coach to see if he can miss one game.  It’s hard enough planning a wedding with your fiance’s deployment schedule.  

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

would your brother need to travel for the wedding? Is it possible maybe to change the time of the wedding, so that he can attend after his football game?

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

i woudn’t change my date for a football game… i mean its  college football vs wedding.. honestly. how long is the match? cant he come afterwards?

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

His coach is not nice.  I would not change my date.  He can be with you in thought.  This will never end.  You cannot please everyone.  If it is easy to change the date then that would be different.

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