(Closed) changing the name

posted 8 years ago in Names
  • poll: How should stlginkgo rename?
    her first, her middle, his last : (8 votes)
    38 %
    her first, her last, his last : (10 votes)
    48 %
    don't do it! tell DH to buzz off! : (3 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 3
    2030 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    Traditionally, you would make your maiden name into your middle name. I didn’t know that and kept my middle name. Now that I have been working on my family genealogy I noticed that everyone always kept their maiden name as a middle name or at least as a middle initial, and it has been REALLY helpful in identifying family lines. For example in two census records 10 years apart, it is clear that Hannah E. Bassett became Hannah B. Hulse when she got married. So if you want to make things easy on your great-great-grand-children who are researching the family history, go with the maiden name as middle name! lol

    Post # 4
    2196 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

    @FreeRangeMom: I had no idea! that’s really interesting. I thought that was just what ladies were doing on here so they could keep their last name still.

    I don’t think any of my family did that, of course our last name is 12 letters long.




    I am keeping my middle name because It was named after someone who passed away. But my Fiance and I are both taking on a new last name, one of our grandparents.

    Post # 5
    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    stlginko, I was told that in Missouri, we aren’t allowed to just add our maiden name to our middle name or replace it. I called the office and was told that AFTER i got married, I”d have to apply for a name change document from the SS site and then go to court and tell the judge why i wanted my middle name to be my maiden. Frankly, a HUGE hassle. Apparently Missouri makes it difficult. Double check, but it seems SO much easier in other states!!!

    So i am: my first, my middle, his last

    Post # 7
    18643 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I didn’t want to make my maiden name my middle, so I’m first middle new last.

    Post # 8
    3 posts
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I want my last name to become the middle, but my fiance wants me to keep my old middle name. Not sure why he cares so much?

    Post # 9
    2342 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    My previous middle name was my mothers maiden name.  I’ve now changed it to my first, my last, his last. 

    But now, I’m stuck on:  Do I stick with tradition (take mothers maiden name for middle name) and do the same thing for our future children or do I give them they own middle name?  Decisions, decisions!  What will you do stiginko with your baby?

    Post # 11
    950 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    We both changed our names, so now we are both First Middle MyLast HisLast.  We live in CA, so it was easy – new law states that marriage licenses are a new form of changing your entire name; just write your old name, then write what you want your new name to be. 

    We are having the same discussion as @jingle96, what do we do with kids?  Both our dads are called the same name (middle for my dad, nickname for his), so if the kid is a boy, we originally agreed on giving the kid our dads’ common name as a middle.  I’d like all our kids to have my last as a middle, but Mr. doesn’t love the fact that it will sound like our first son is named almost solely after my dad.  I pointed out that, without my last as a middle, it sounds like our first son is named solely after his.  He conceded that this is true…but we haven’t come to an agreement yet. 

    @stlginkgo: How do YOU feel about your child becoming blah blah blah “the third”?

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