Changing venue? *HELP!!*

posted 2 months ago in Venue
Post # 2
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Bumble Beekeeper

Well this all depends on what the contract you signed with the venue states and/or their stated refund policy. In most cases a deposit is lost if you cancel. 

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@lovingnewbee123:  

Post # 3
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Bumble bee

The good news is that fall 2022 weddings may be in high demand due to COVID, so you may be able to negotiate a refund of your deposit or a forfeiture of only a part of your deposit.  Normally, you lose the deposit if you don’t go ahead with the event, but businesses operating in good faith use the deposit to offset costs they incur by your cancellation, not to profiteer.  They might be willing to work with you especially if you give them a good reason for cancelling your booking (and the actual location of the venue compared to where you live, having a change of heart with the travel involved for your guests, would be a good reason).  There aren’t any guarantees, but you don’t have anything to lose (beyond the money you already put down).

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

All you can do is speak to the venue about your options. It’s absolutely not your venue’s fault that you didn’t think the logistics through. As PP said above, it’s true they may be lenient due to Covid bookings, but they have also presumably been losing a tremendous amount of income due to closure from Covid. I don’t really agree that a ‘change of heart’ is good reason to expect a return of deposit, since all the reasons you list existed at the point of booking. Even if you could ‘sell your date’ to someone else, there’s no guarantee the venue would transfer the booking. Hopefully they can do something for you, but ultimately I think you have to be an adult here and prepare to accept financial responsibility. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee

Why couldn’t people drive out on Saturday, attend your wedding, stay over one night, and leave? You do not have to feed them all weekend. 

but if you want your money back you are just going to need to read your contract and politely ask. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

If I was travelling for a wedding that required me to stay overnight the only meal I would “expect” to be given would be during the wedding event itself so wedding breakfast and possibly snacks in the evening. 

All other meals are on me to provide for myself. IMO

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

Why would they have to take Friday off work? Couldn’t they just drive up Friday night or Saturday morning? 

And you wouldn’t have to feed all of your guests all through the weekend. Typically you’d just provide food at the wedding and maybe a light breakfast the next day. (Youd also need rehearsal dinner and day-of food for the wedding party, but you’d need to do that anywhere).

 

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper

I think you’re doing the right thing. There’s a big difference between what you can expect guests to be OK with if the venue is local to you or one of the families as opposed to a domestic destination, hours away from everyone, just because. For the former I would not expect being hosted for anything but the reception, but for a wedding that is inconveniently located to everyone, that requires people taking time off of work, I absolutely would. 

All you can do is talk to the venue coordinator and see what they say. 

Post # 9
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Helper bee

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@weddingmaven:  if you expect to be fed every meal for a weekend just because the wedding is 3 hours away, your expectations are wrong and entitled 

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper

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@katie1293:  Sorry, no.  I’ve happily traveled a whole lot more than three hours for a wedding that is local to the couple or their family and never expect anything other than a reception of some kind.

But when a couple is putting a fancy or exotic venue ahead of every single one of their friends and family members, making them take off of work unnecessarily, and it is not even local to the couple themselves, that is entitlement. To her credit, OP gets that. Destination weddings, whether domestic or overseas are often a burden of time and money on guests. But if someone is going to do this regardless the very least they can do is host their guests. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

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@lovingnewbee123:  Oh yes, that’s a bit different!

An ‘overnight’ wedding is pretty common where I live – at least 50% of people have their weddings about 2-4 hours out of the city. But a weekend-long/multi-event wedding out of town would be a bit much for most guests.

Are you still planning on having two events? 

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Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2020

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@lovingnewbee123:  I’d do all of your weddng in one day. An “overnight” wedding is an imposition no matter where your venue is. Guests don’t want to gave to get dressed up and travel twice. It’s also confusing and you’ll probably lose a lot of guests for the second day reception. It’s also more expensive for you

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

For what it’s worth, I would really hate a two-day wedding – ceremony on one day, reception on the next. It’s a large imposition on anyone who isn’t your immediate family, and overestimating how much time people want to devote to your wedding – of course your loved ones will care you’re getting married and look forward to a celebration, but everyone has lives, and asking them to carve out this much time for you is an undertaking most would see as a chore. 

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