(Closed) Changing wedding date?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

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MrsD2016:  I changed our wedding date twice before we settled on ours (12/13/14).  If save the dates haven’t gone out and you haven’t booked anything, then I don’t see a problem with it.  Talk to your bridesmaids, I’m sure they will understand.

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

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MrsD2016:  Hmmm I changed it before we booked the venue.  We tour our venue probably 3 times before we actually booked.  When we went in the second time our wedding date was Nov 2014 and that date had already been booked.  So we went home and then eventually changed it again.  When we went in the third time that date was available and so we booked 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

We changed ours way at the beginning of the process. One of my bridesmaids is a bridesmaid in a wedding exactly a week after ours, so we moved it so she could attend.

I thought everyone knew then found out my aunt (who will be walking me down the aisle – along with my mom – hadn’t been told, so I apologetically told her).

we are waiting for oue engagement photos to send out out Save the Dates. If the July date is important to you, go for it, especially with the Save the Dates having not gone out.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

I’d check in with your venue and your bridesmaids to make sure the alternate date works. Since you’ve already booked the venue and asked them to stand, I’d think it would be important to verify the change won’t cause big problems.

Other than that, go ahead and change it. If the date is important to you, then set that date. It will make it feel even more special for you. That being said, if it can’t work out, you get to have 2 anniversary dates to love and cherish. I had really wanted to get married on our 4 year dating anniversary, but my fiance proposed a few months too late to make that happen. By the time our wedding rolled around, I was so excited about our new anniversary that I didn’t mind at all that we missed the dating one.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom

I was VERY tempted to change the date more than once, because it was my parents who picked the date and it happens to be to be my Dad’s birthday. Seeing as we are now fully estranged, I am worried it will be a painful twinge every year on my wedding anniversary.

I went as far as talking to my DH’s Godmother about it (our wedding decorator). I ended up keeping the original date because the venue had been a nightmare the whole time, and I didn’t want to interact with them any more than I had to. I also had an exceedingly difficult time getting the time off at work for my wedding and honeymoon, so I didn’t want to ‘poke the bear’ any further. It wasn’t about the fact I’d already sent out the save the dates, it was the ‘pain in the ass’ factor.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

The worst that could happen is you ask to change the date and they tell you no.  I dont think the venue would have a problem with it especially if the date in July is more expensive. If you are really going to change the date I would do it now and not wait.  From a guests perspective I would prefer a wedding in July vs one on a holiday weekend.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

I don’t think you should be scared to ask your venue anything. I asked my venue about a million questions, and one of the things I loved about them was that they were always accommodating (whether they could do what I asked or not), helpful, and never made me feel like I was bothering them.

As the PP said – all they can say is no. Just ask about the date change and go from there. 

If they say it’s ok, and STD’s haven’t been sent out yet, I think you would be fine changing the date. 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

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Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

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MrsD2016:  It was before, we found out the weekend we were going to see our potentail venues so it was all good there. FWIW, most venues will allow you to switch dates with only a minimum of fuss, however, there may be a financial penalty – check your contract.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Cherry Orchard

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MrsD2016:  Just casually call the venue and see if that date is open. That doesn’t mean you forfeit your date just for asking.

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