(Closed) changing wedding venue…. to a different state! Yelp!

posted 9 years ago in Venue
Post # 3
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425 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Thats a tough situation.  A lot to think about.  I am originally from WI myself and moved to St. Louis about 2 years ago with my Fiance.  

I would really think about your budget…. Im sure you would hate to do into debt because of your wedding.  

I think that sending out your STD’s already may make it a bit more complicated, but you can always change the details.  

Really think about what would work best for you and Fiance.  Maybe have a little ceremony in AZ and invite everyone to a simple dinner afterwards.

You can send a little letter to all the people you send STD’s too and explain the situation.  Hopefully they will understand.  

My Fi and I are having a small wedding in STL and most of our invited guests are from WI.

It just worked better for us to have it near were we live.  I just sent out the invites so hopefully I will get some RSVP’s soon.  I am curious to see who will be willing to travel for my wedding. (although STL is closer to WI then AZ, so maybe more people would not mind to drive) 

Post # 5
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563 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Can you get married at the courthouse in your new state, and then can you have a small, downscaled celebration on the same date/time/city that you were originally intending to get married?  How large was your original guest list?  Can you all fit in a picnic area of a local park, or can any of your friends or family host a party for you?  That way all of your friends from your hometown can still celebrate your wedding, but you won’t need to pay for a big reception.  People will completely understand if you need to downsize your wedding for fincancial reasons.  You might want to consider a barbeque, "dessert party" or brunch to cut down on costs.  As long as you are clear about the type of event you are hosting in the invitation, I don’t think any of the guests will mind.

Post # 6
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7081 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

Save the Dates are definitely not binding.  I think you should feel free to change things as needed to suit your circumstances, and in this economy people will totally understand!

Just make sure 1) you tell everyone definitively of any change in plans soon 2) you don’t change your mind a second time.

Will you be losing more with deposits etc on things you’ve reserved back home? Make sure you do the math so you know what will be most economical.

Most of all, good luck and let us know what happens!

Post # 7
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2640 posts
Sugar bee

First, WI to AZ!  Wo that must be a bit of a shock.  How’s it going?

Also, if somehow you can swing a reception or something for the folks back home, I hope you can work it out.  It sounds like, if you could, you’d like to have it as originally planned. 

However, with regard to the STD, I think in your circumstance, the Save-The-Date Cards aren’t an obligation to continue to hold a wedding you can no longer afford, or feasibly go through with (having moved.)  I think Save-The-Date Cards become sticky situations if you ar simply trying to scale down a guest list for a wedding that is still being planned as before.  Are you afraid that some folks have bought plane tickets to WI?  The only thing I would suggest, is if you are offically cancelling the WI wedding, to let you guests know ASAP, so they know not to book flights or hotel rooms, or take off work etc.

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