Post # 1
my husband proposed in early 2015 with an engagement ring that I love- it’s a cushion cut diamond in a halo setting. My only issue is the diamond sits very high up above the halo so there is a space between the diamond and halo. The only way to have this corrected is to have the setting completely rebuilt. The jeweler I’ve been discussing this with said they can use all my same diamonds and just rebuild a new setting with them so the fit tightly around the center diamond making it lower with no space. My husband (we’ve been married about a year and a half now), says he is totally okay with it and that he likes that I’ll have my say in the ring now too, but I’m still feeling hesitant. I am very sentimental so I feel weird knowing my new ring won’t be the same ring I have now/that he proposed with even though all the diamonds will be the same. But the ring the jeweler will recreate for me is my dream ring :/ am I over reacting? Is changing a setting not a huge deal if I’m reusing all the same diamonds and my husband is on board? I hope I’m just overthinking this!!
Post # 2
I think when you are married longer the growing love replaces most sentiment you have with a ring, (your memories become with your husband, not a ring) so maybe since it is still relatively new that’s why you feel funny changing it. Ultimately you will want to have a ring that is more practical for use (not as high, like you said) and that will be more important than the hesitation of changing the ring.
Changing a ring, getting a different ring, etc. does not jinx the marriage, so hopefully that’s not part of the hesitation. All in all, it’s just a ring to symbolize your bond, and it doesn’t matter whether it’s a cigar band, a simple gold band, or a bling-city ring, or none at all. If I were you, I would be happy to get a new design that I liked better (dream ring) and woudn’t be concerned that it wasn’t the original one. I’ve been with my husband for a long time and I wear whatever I want on my finger that day. It makes no difference to him. Some days I may not even put anything on at all, and it doesn’t make me feel any less married. In the end, it’s just jewelry, really…special jewelry, but jewelry nonetheless.
Some jewelers are able to take your original gold and use that to make the new ring, so in that case your diamonds and the gold would be the same as what you started with, only a different look.
Or, if you really want to keep your ring intact for sentimental reasons, you could get a whole new one and keep the old one too if that is an importance to you (I know, it’s the cost of a new ring though).
Post # 3
eliza426 : I don’t think that’s a major change at all. All you’re doing is lowering the stone really. If you’re providing everything, you’re not really paying for anything but the lowering of the stone.