Post # 1
Ok – so I’m really curious – I have a friend here at work, who is from India, originally – their tradition is to change their first name when they get married. They do this in accordance with their astrology charts. I was very intrigued by this information – as obviously different cultures have different traditions. I’m really curious if there are any bee’s on the board who have done this? I know we have many Indian Bees, but I can’t remember ever seeing a post about this and was hoping to have it explained a bit more for me.
She said that her last name will not be changing, but her first name will. She was unable to tell me what it is just yet – mainly because she hasn’t gone to the social security office or anything – but she has been married for 4 years and her family all call her by her new name, but in her “public” life (work, etc) everyone still calls her by her original name.
Just hoping to get more information on this as it’s intreguing! I know that there’s SO many posts on the boards about women who are torn between changing their last name or not – but I’m really curious how many have had to change their first name, due to the tradition in their culture. I’d love to hear more about this!!! 😀
Please note – I am not mocking this at all. I’m genuinly curious and hope that no one posts anything negative about this tradition. I’d just like to be enlightened as I learned something new today! 😀
Post # 4
I have two friends from India who changed their first names and last names when they got married. I’m not sure how they chose their first name, but they also took their husband’s last night. I try to remember to use the new first name, but I slip sometimes. Neither of them seem to mind because so many people still call them by their old first names, but I’m sure they appreciate it when people get it right!
Post # 5
My former employers were from India and the wife’s middle name was the husband’s first name. I didn’t question them about it, but I thought that it was interesting. Also, from what I understand, engagement rings aren’t traditionally used but instead the woman has a big fancy necklace she wears to show she is betrothed!
Post # 6
One of my roommates in college was born in southern India (there are different traditions bases on regions) and she explained to me that when a woman gets married her husband’s first name becomes her last name and the children’s last name will also be the father’s first name. She told how they also have a Family Name too but that is not part of their legal name. She never said anything about changing her first name and is now married and has’t changed her first name, but it could be that it’s not a tradition in her region.
Post # 7
I am Indian and my middle name is my dad’s first name. Also, one of my dad’s friend’s wife changed her first name when she got married.
Post # 7
In most states of India, wife takes the husband’s surname – although in recent times, some are choosing to retain their maiden name.
Down south, in a couple of states, the woman takes her husband’s first name as her surname – it becomes the children’s surname too. So there can be the confusion of different surnames for husband and wife.
In some of the northern states – and I don’t know which ones exactly, or if it is specific to particular communities – the in-laws give the bride a new name on marriage. I have a friend whom we call by the maiden first name, while her husband and in-laws call her by her married first name.
Post # 8
JuneBride_26June2010: I have a lot of Indian co-workers, and some of them have their family name/surname/what most westerners consider the “last name” first, and their given name or “first name” last. I don’t know if that has anything to do with which names are changed or added upon marriage, but figured I would mention it.