(Closed) Changing your First name, for marriage – Indian Tradition?

posted 8 years ago in Names
Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

I have two friends from India who changed their first names and last names when they got married.  I’m not sure how they chose their first name, but they also took their husband’s last night.  I try to remember to use the new first name, but I slip sometimes.  Neither of them seem to mind because so many people still call them by their old first names, but I’m sure they appreciate it when people get it right!

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

My former employers were from India and the wife’s middle name was the husband’s first name. I didn’t question them about it, but I thought that it was interesting.  Also, from what I understand, engagement rings aren’t traditionally used but instead the woman has a big fancy necklace she wears to show she is betrothed!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

One of my roommates in college was born in southern India (there are different traditions bases on regions) and she explained to me that when a woman gets married her husband’s first name becomes her last name and the children’s last name will also be the father’s first name.  She told how they also have a Family Name too but that is not part of their legal name.  She never said anything about changing her first name and is now married and has’t changed her first name, but it could be that it’s not a tradition in her region.

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I am Indian and my middle name is my dad’s first name. Also, one of my dad’s friend’s wife changed her first name when she got married.

Post # 7
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Wannabee

In most states of India, wife takes the husband’s surname – although in recent times, some are choosing to retain their maiden name.

Down south, in a couple of states, the woman takes her husband’s first name as her surname – it becomes the children’s surname too. So there can be the confusion of different surnames for husband and wife. 

In some of the northern states – and I don’t know which ones exactly, or if it is specific to particular communities – the in-laws give the bride a new name on marriage. I have a friend whom we call by the maiden first name, while her husband and in-laws call her by her married first name. 

 

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper

JuneBride_26June2010:  I have a lot of Indian co-workers, and some of them have their family name/surname/what most westerners consider the “last name” first, and their given name or “first name” last. I don’t know if that has anything to do with which names are changed or added upon marriage, but figured I would mention it.

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