(Closed) Changing your last name?

posted 5 years ago in Names
  • poll: What did/will you do for your last name?
    Taking My husbands name : (137 votes)
    75 %
    Hyphening both of our names : (7 votes)
    4 %
    Creating a new name : (2 votes)
    1 %
    He's taking my name : (6 votes)
    3 %
    Other : (21 votes)
    11 %
    keeping my name : (10 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I took my DH’s name.  However, I changed my name in the formal, traditional manner (for women in the US) of legally dropping my given middle name and taking my maiden name as my new, legal middle name. I am able to go by all three names (which I do professionally and most other times) or by just my first and last names, which I generally do at our church, where my Darling Husband is the pastor.

    At first, I had a difficult time parting with my given middle initial (I was quite attached to it and used it ALL of the time.)  However, I absolutely LOVE having three names now, because it has allowed me to maintain continuity of my identity while still enabling me to take my husband’s last name. 🙂

    Post # 4
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    7219 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I grew up with a hyphenated last name and have been looking forward to dropping down to just one for a VERY long time! Of course, while I LOOOOOVE my SO’s last name, it’s one of those Mexican de la Blah names, so it’s still 3 words! Ha. 

    Post # 5
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    437 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I’ve been looking forward to changing my name since I was a kid (mine rhymes with stuff…) and I like my FI’s last name a lot.  But the logistics of changing mine make my head spin…

    Post # 8
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    311 posts
    Helper bee

    I plan on taking my FH’s last name, but I always thought it was cool to make up a new last name to start a new life. It’s a really sentimental thing for him and I don’t like mine too much so I think it’s best if I take his.

    Post # 9
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    7219 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @Doodle411:  Yeah… dropping two to pick up three LOL There’s no way I could hyphenate with his and I really really like it. What’s funny about my maiden name is that my dad has it hyphenated the same way. He took on my mom’s when they got married so it’s Moms-Dads for all of us. He figured he was marrying her as much as she was marrying him… plus he wanted his future family to all have the same name.

    Post # 10
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    1252 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I took my husband’s name. I didn’t even think twice about it. You may call my husband a little old fashioned in that sense, but it was mandatory for me to change my last name once we were married. He wouldn’t even listen to any reason why I might want to keep my last name. I didn’t mind a single bit, so it was all good. And there is no way he would ever even consider taking my last name. Ha the thought of it makes me giggle. 

    Post # 11
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    401 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Keeping my own name – I prefer it, and honestly don’t care much about tradition

    Post # 12
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    2118 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Baby #2 due Sep 2017

    I’m taking FI’s last name. He comes from a long line of Yoshidas and has a family registry going bach hundreds of years and has a lot of pride. I will be proud to join that! My family name, however, comes from my step father and although it’s unique and do I like it, a lot of people can’t spell it 😛

    Post # 13
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    123 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I want to keep my name but he wants me to take his… we are still negotiating…. 🙂

    Post # 15
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    1586 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I am so glad to see the numbers on this poll. I too am taking my FI’s name and I can’t wait.

     

    I used to work in a doctor’s office in a field which deals heavily in children, so I saw SO. MANY. MOTHERS. whose names did not match with their childrens’ or husband’s. If I questioned (for insurance purposes), they got super snippy about it too. It just felt like that was the thing that people did now. Women kept their names, didn’t 100% commit to their relationships and left themselves an easier exit and got divorced in 5 years.*

     

    *Before you flame me, OBVIOUSLY people who keep their last name aren’t all like this. I worked in a very rich and snobby area where half of our patients like this were already divorced, the other half were on their way.

    Post # 16
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    1293 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2018

    @ferdie224:  +1,000!! I couldn’t wait to change my name. Even if I did like my maiden name (which I don’t), I would still change it because it feels like more of a family unit to me. It’s a symbolic gesture (but so is marriage itself) that feels natural to me. I never even considered another way, just always assumed I’d take my husband’s name.

    In fact, I was so excited that my name is already changed.

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