(Closed) Changing your last name?

posted 7 years ago in Names
  • poll: What did/will you do for your last name?

    Taking My husbands name

    Hyphening both of our names

    Creating a new name

    He's taking my name


    keeping my name

  • Post # 17
    1293 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2018

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    @MrsFutureG:  +1

    It feels like a family when everyone has the same name. I never wanted a different name from my kids, or my husband for that matter.

    Post # 18
    977 posts
    Busy bee

    We’ve had like 30 posts about this already within the last month….


    taking FI’s…I still have my xDH’s.  

    Post # 19
    4145 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I am taking my FI’s name and can’t wait.

    One of the main things I have been looking forward to about marriage (even back in middle and high school) was getting rid of my last name. It’s not a bad name, it’s just my dad’s name – I haven’t spoken to him since I was 3 and he is not part of my life at all. I would MUCH rather have my FI’s name, a man Ilove and respect, than a man I have no connection or relationship with

    Post # 20
    600 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I took my husbands name but I kept my maiden name as a middle name as its a huge part of who I am.  My husband left the decision to me, and I did think about it a lot, but ultimately I know it meant the world to him to have me share his family name.  So that’s what I did and I’m glad, although it is taking some adjusting to.

    I like being his, having his name makes me feel even more of a part of him – and I was hesitant to change it, fearing I would lose my identity, but in reality, it just helped me discover a new part of me.

    I’m glad I did it 🙂

    Post # 21
    224 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @Doodle411:  I don’t think there is really a “proper protocol” for same sex couples yet since they are still struggling in so many states for their rights. I will say, my best friend is in a same sex marriage and she took her wife’s name. However, here in VA same sex marriages still aren’t recognized as legal…so she had to go through a normal name change process as opposed to just sending your marriage license and having it done that way.

    It was actually quite funny..when we sent out our Save-The-Date Cards I had to actually think about how to address them. Technically they’re married (even if it isn’t recognized legally by the state), but etiquette doesn’t cover that! lol. I think I ended up addressing it to “Mrs. & Mrs. First name & First name Last name”

    For me, I plan on taking my FI’s name since I have no attachment to mine. I’m also looking forward to having a shorter name!

    Post # 23
    247 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    My last name is complicated, hard to spell, and frequently misprounounced. FI’s is one of those names that everyone can say and spell, so I’m really excited to take his name for practical purposes. I also want to feel connected to him, and to our future children, in that way. However, the feminist in me is kind of angry that I’m not keeping my name. Still haven’t decided 100%.

    Post # 24
    6354 posts
    Bee Keeper

    He’s taking mine.

    We’re thinking of adding his “bachelor name” as a second middle name for both of us (not dropping the ones we have). So we would each have 4 names, no hyphenation.

    Post # 26
    526 posts
    Busy bee

    I changed my name on Facebook, and I use his name in my personal life.  I use my maiden name for my career. 

    I’m pretty sure I may have legally changed my name to his last name, but my drivers license, social, and passport are all in my maiden name.  I’m planning on “rechanging” my legal name to a hyphenated, but I will still use JUST my maiden name for business and JUST his name for personal. 

    Post # 27
    7770 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    DH took my name.  It was his idea.  It is pretty cool 🙂

    Post # 28
    1222 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Didn’t change my name and I’m so happy to still have my name. I cringe thinking about being called Mrs Hisname.

    Post # 29
    116 posts
    Blushing bee

    I look forward having my FIs last name, but I am not giving up mine 🙂

    I will use my last name as a middle name AND as last name using FI’s 

    Post # 30
    1357 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Changed my last name to his. I couldn’t wait to get 10 yards between myself and my old name, which reminds me of some toxic relationships and is also a really strange name that nobody gets right. 


    For the briefest moment, I considered taking my mom’s maiden name because it’s easy and I’ve always had a great relationship with my mother and that side of my family. But I also grew up with DH and know his family well, so it was exciting to feel fully adopted into that clan and have this symbol of being part of that family.

    Post # 31
    13095 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I took DH’s name and was so excited to do so.  Honestly, I couldn’t imagine doing anything else.

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