Post # 1
How many of you ladies changed/are changing your lastname? I’m not engaged yet, but my SO and I have talked about me changing my last name when the time comes. I am all for it. My Mom were talking about it randomly and she said she feels that when you take your husbands lastname you “lose part of your identity.” She seemed to be upset about the fact that I want to change mine. I feel that it is tradition to change it and never thought about keeping mine.
I’m just curious how everyone on the bee feels about it.
Post # 3
I am definitely taking his last name. I am very traditional and I am excited to take his last name.
Post # 4
I think thats alittle extreme to be honest lol. I’m changing mine. My Fiance hasnt pressured me at all, but he said he would like me too. I told my parents and they said they dont care either way, its my choice. Im still the same person, my last name is just different.
Post # 5
I kept my last name because it was important to ME
That’s great if your mom feels that way about her name, just as it’s great how you feel about YOUR name–you should do whatever YOU want–not let other people (mom-fiance, etc) browbeat you.
I always thought I would growing up, but as the wedding approached I realized how important it was to me to keep my name.
Post # 6
We’re both traditional so I always planned to take his. Even though I kind of hate it. No one can pronounce it from the way it looks (it’s french). 😛
Post # 7
I am thinking (not sure yet) that I want to make my maiden name a second middle name. It just sounds weird together.
Post # 9
@Spectrespecs: I don’t think I will be taking FI’s last name. I’m already published under my name, so I’m not opposed to going by his name socially but I want to stick with my name in my career. Haven’t 100% decided whether I’ll take both names or not, though. When I told my mom this, she freaked out and told me that “a family can’t be a family without a family name” (ie- the complete OPPOSITE of your mom’s reaction lol). My advice? Go with whatever your gut tells you to do and ignore whatever everyone else has to say about it 🙂
Post # 10
I’l be taking his last name for a few reasons. Let’s say I’m Ms. A and he’s Mr. B. I would never want to be called Mrs. A because that’s my mom’s name. Growing up, my friends called her Mrs. A. My sister in law, when she married my brother, became Mrs. A.
I’m not hyphenating because my first name is 3 syllables, my middle name is 2 syllables, and each of our current last names are two syllables. 3 2 2-2. It’s a mouthful.
My only regret is that my last name is a color (and not a common color name like brown or green) and thus easy to spell, pronounce, explain over a bad phone like, “It’s BLANK! Like, the color!” His last name is a bastardized spelling of an archiac French word for lawyer and has all sorts of double letters and a silent letter at the end. I don’t look forward to trying to explain how to spell it to people now, “It’s BLANK! Like, the… here do you have a pen?”
Post # 11
@Spectrespecs: Maiden name is becoming new middle name, and I’m taking his last name.
Post # 12
I will be taking his name… he is very traditional,and he really wants this- hes looking forward to me having his name. and i was married before and HATE HATE my last name now.. i was considering changing my middle name to my maiden name- but decided against it…. the only thing is i will having a mouthful of a name once we are married but i def wont get confused with anyone else
Post # 13
I plan on taking his last name. My last name is longer than his and will look weird hyphenated and it’s just more complicated
Post # 14
I will be taking my Fiance surname, it’s tradition after all. In fact if I didn’t I would probably get more comments as to why not 🙂
Post # 15
I will be hyphenating. Only one on poll so far!
Post # 16
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
I’m finishing my PhD and plan to be Dr. MyLastName, but Mrs. HisLastName.