(Closed) Changing your name?

posted 8 years ago in Traditions
  • poll: Last name

    taking his

    keep you own

    hypen it

    he's taking yours

  • Post # 62
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2019

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    @NauticalDisaster:  I wasn’t insulted 🙂

    Post # 63
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2014

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    Post # 64
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

    I’m changing my whole name, haha. Right now my name is [First] [Middle] [Mother’s Maiden] [My last]. When I get married, I am going to change it to [First] [Middle] [My last] [His last]

    Post # 65
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

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    @Rachel631:  This is like the 3rd time i’ve seen you post those exact words. 

    Post # 67
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    I was struggling with this- I have accomplished a lot with MY name- my name is on my college diploma and my law degree.  When we got engaged I was terrified of telling Fiance that I wasn’t sure I wanted to change my name.  When I finally got the nerve to talk about it, he said, “I figured you would probably keep your name.  I’m not changing my name, why should you change yours?”  I love that man!

    I do like the idea of being a “unit” to the world, Fiance proposed that we BOTH change our names to My Last Name- His Last Name.  He said if it’s good enough for Jay-Z and Beyonce, it’s good for us!  That’s our current plan now and I love it!

    Post # 68
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

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    @HeartsandSparkles:  When I finally got the nerve to talk about it, he said, “I figured you would probably keep your name.  I’m not changing my name, why should you change yours?”  I love that man!

    I love that!  When I asked my Fiance, he asked, “why would you want to give up your beautiful name?” Especially since he knows I’ll more than likely be the last living member of my immediate and extended family with that name (I am truly the youngest “Rose”, even at age 34.) 


    Post # 69
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I really find it fascinating how much paperwork this takes in the US, apparently?  In Canada (except Quebec, which no longer acknowledges the change of name, because the Quebec government does not work and play well with others) once you’re married, you can use either one, for anything you want.  When you want to get a driver’s licence or passport, in your married name, you need to show your marriage certificate, as proof of your name change, but that’s it.

    If you hyphenate, or want to add your maiden name as a middle name, then you would need a legal name change, which is a more complex process.  It also means that that is your only legal name, whereas if you take your husband’s last name, you can switch back and forth at your leisure.

    Post # 71
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I’ll be taking his last name as my own, and to be honest, I’m sort of glad to be rid of my maiden name.  I prefer to go by my (late) mother’s maiden name, but legally I have my father’s name. The sooner I become Mrs Scott S the happier I’ll be 🙂

    Post # 72
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 1997

    I was pretty neutral on the name change. Indeed, my father wanted to change his name to my mother’s maiden name when they married (a 4 letter English name as opposed to his 12 letter German one), so there was no great attachment to my maiden name. Additionally, my DH’s surname is very well known in this area; the street we live on carries his name. And it was important to both of us that any children share a last name with both of us. 

    However, had I been professionally established prior to marriage, I would not have changed my name. I don’t think it should be an expectation, nor do I think children should automatically be given their father’s last name (I realize that’s not the question, but just as an aside).

    Post # 73
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I am definitely taking his last name.  But I can’t decide if I am:

    1. adding it to my full name (first, middle, maiden, his)

    2. dropping my middle name (first, maiden, his)

    3. dropping my last name (first, middle, his)

    Post # 74
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I took his name. Changing it at the SS office and DMV was actually really easy. I’m already registered professionaly with my maiden name, so I get to hold onto it a little 🙂

    Post # 75
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    Wannabee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    keeping my own.

    Post # 76
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    Newbee

    I’m keeping my own last name. Far too attached to it to give it up. My parents actually seemed happy I was keeping it. Fiance wasn’t surprised in the least.

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