Post # 1
I’m taking DH’s last name and honestly want to do so ASAP so that I can stop worrying about it. It is a little overwhelming! But I don’t even know where to start or what to do!
Do you change your social security card first and then driver’s license? What do you need to bring with you to do either? After that, do you just call around to doctors offices, your bank, etc or do you have to take your marriage license everywhere? How do you change your name/address at work? And speaking of address.. do you have to fill out a change of address form at the post office? There are so many things and it’s driving me crazy! I’m sure it’s one of those things where once you do it, it isn’t so bad but I have major anxiety thinking about it all and am slightly procrastinating because of it!
Post # 2
Change your social security card, then drivers license. You will need your marriage license for both along with another form that you can fill out online. Make a copy of your marriage license and just keep it in your purse, there have been multiple times I have needed it randomly. There are checklists online that will give you all the steps in order. It’s kind of a pain…but none of it is hard!
Post # 3
Social security first. Note that you can either send in via mail or go in in person. You can’t make an advance appointment for name change, so carve out a few hours to wait, just in case. You’ll need your marriage license for social security.
Once you do social security, let your work know so that they’re sending checks to the appropriate person.
Aftet you get your new social security card, you can do driver’s license. You will need your marriage license here too. You don’t need to do a change with the post office for new address, unless you’ve moved as well.
Then you can do credit cards, doctor’s office, passport, etc. Almost everything requires your new DL. Airlines that I changed with required a copy of marriage license.
Once the social security card and DL are done, you can check off the other changes as needed. I don’t think you need to be in a mad rush. I do carry my old DL with me just in case, but on ones given me a hard time in just day to day interactions if I’m using a name different from what’s on my card, reservation, etc.
Post # 4
that’s a very good idea! Thank you! I am going to see if I can find a list online that I can check off! That might help me feel less overwhelmed haha.
thanks for your response! I think if I can get the major ones done it will probably be a lot of “oh yea my name/address changed” at random places I won’t think about. And “technically” i guess my address is still my mom’s house (that’s where my important mail goes, address work has, Drs have, etc) so I technically think I need to change it but didn’t know if you have to fill something out at the post office or if you just tell work, Drs, etc address changed and you’re fine from there?
Post # 5
I suggest scanning your marriage license and saving a copy in your email. I had to email my certificate to a ton of companies to get my name changed and it was really easy having a digital copy to send them.
Post # 6
Tell me about it. I am an organisational freak and the amount of stuff you have to change seems so overwhelming.
Post # 7
If you’re happy for your mum to still get your mail and then you just change your address as things arise that works too. Probably better than a change of address at the post office
Post # 8
: You’ll want to change your address with your application for a new DL, so that your license will accurately reflect where you live. You should also change your address with the Post Office but all this will do is set up a forwarding address. The PO will forward mail sent to your old address for up to a year. Given that the PO is not the most reliable agency (I had plenty of lost or misdirected mail when I changed addresses) I’d also change your address soon with places like your work, doctor, credit card companies, insurance, magazines, and any sites/companies that you often use to ship items to you (like Amazon).
However, it’s definitely helpful that your mom will receive any email that might get inadvertently delivered to your old address, or sent after the year deadline.
Post # 9
I don’t know how it works in your area, but where I live you often need a certified copy of your marriage certificate to change your name. I plan on making like ten copies and getting them all certified at the same time so I have plenty of copies and don’t have to keep going back to the police station or pharmacy to get more done.
Post # 10
another great idea! Thank you!
it truly is! I’m also afraid to change something in the fear that I will mess something else up/change things in the wrong order and no longer be able to access something. Ridiculous I know but that’s me haha.
thanks! I have already started changing small things but I didn’t know if like how you have to officially legally change your name, you had to “officially” change your address through the post office too.
thanks for the help! I think that is a good idea to do in the meantime until I get through to all places about the address change. When you apply for the new DL, do you just fill out your new address on a form or do you need some sort of proof of address change? (Clearly never done this before haha sorry if the answer is obvious)
what in the world is a certified copy and how do you get one? Do you make copies and then take them somewhere where they certify it for your use? Why is this all so complicated 😯
I’m in the US- PA to be exact. If that changes anything!
Post # 11
for address change its really simple, go to US postal website click on change of address, fill out the information, pay $1 and that’s it. Super simple and fast. Then they will send you a letter to your new address (you don’t have to do anything it’s basically a letter stating you changed your address if it’s not you call this number blah blah blah)
Post # 12
If you’re comfortable with Excel, I’d make a spreadsheet of all the things you have to change. You can list any documents you need in one column and then check things off as you go. That might make it seem less overwhelming!
Post # 13
that’s so wonderful!! Thank you for telling me that!!
I actually just asked DH to help me with this last night haha. It is a great idea! He is better at it than I am and I’m also hoping he will help keep me on track haha
Post # 14
SS and drivers license are the 2 big ones! Wells Fargo required me to make an appt to go in and show them my marriage certificate and fill out a form. But then they mailed me cards with my new name 🙂 A lot of my other cards just allowed me to do the name change over the phone! It doesn’t hurt to call and ask. They may require you to send a copy of the marriage certificate and SS card. For my job, I had to go to HR and ask for a link to a form I had to fill out and I had to attach a scanned copy of my marriage cert and SS card. Then they updated everything for me!
Oh and while you’re at the DMV make sure to update your voter registration too! It’s super easy. They just direct you to a booth to update your info.
Post # 15
I don’t know about by you but in my city the post office couldn’t care less whose name is on the package – they just deliver it to the address. Unless you’re moving I would make that a lower priority.