(Closed) Changing your wedding date for a family member

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
Member
998 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

If you do not have a problem changing it then change it. I do not think that would be weird at all. 

Post # 4
Member
854 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would change your date.

Post # 5
Member
9567 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

I think you can change it, as you haven’t booked anything yet. Because if you kept the date, your aunt and uncle would be unable to attend as they have already said yes to the other wedding, it would not be a family vs friend argument at all, just a simple matter of sticking to commitments

Post # 6
Member
1304 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I don’t understand why you wouldn’t change it.

Post # 7
Member
2107 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Unless you’re super attached to the date for some reason, I think you should just go ahead and change the date. 

Post # 8
Member
570 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Definitely change it, nothing has been booked- as long as the date doesn’t hold some major significance. As you said, they’ll feel guilty with choosing family or friends (regardless of which wedding they go to), and they won’t have a good time. The friends might argue that their wedding was planned first, and they therefore had already committed to attend that one… your aunt and uncle risk losing good friends or family either way.

Post # 9
Member
705 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Unless you have some really sentimental reason why you picked your date, and as long as you are ok with it and the venue can accomidate i do not see anything wrong with changing it! I know I would want my aunt to be there 🙂 Good luck!

Post # 12
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335 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Right before we put money down on July 6 we found out a second cousin had planned her wedding for the same day. This is not a cousin we see or would be invited but my FIs grandma and aunties would be. We didn’t want to make anyone choose so we switched to June 15. I didn’t want it during the school year originally, there are teachers in my family that will have to travel far, but it was the only summer date left. Now that its done I’m very happy with the new date!

Post # 13
Member
11760 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’d change it if you don’t care about changing it. If you don’t want to change it keep it. I’m in the boat that family is first – whether the other wedding was booked long before yours or not, but that’s just me. Would you be upset if they didn’t attend to attend the other wedding? Would you miss them not being there? Good luck!

Post # 14
Member
433 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@Bhotel21:  

If you haven’t put a deposit down and no save the dates have been sent, change it.

Post # 15
Hostess
7564 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

Just read your update. I’m glad everything worked out! 

Post # 16
Member
1292 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Glad you changed the date…  Your aunt and uncle will really appreciate it.

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