Post # 1
So, Fiance was suppose to ask me a few weeks ago about writting a character referrence for his mother….but he didn’t. And I got a thing in the mail last week about it from the company she works for. I’m really not even sure what its all about, why she needs this reference as she wants to retire this fall. But all it asked of me was to write a character reference for her. I have no idea what to write!! I’ve looked up samples online, but honestly, i don’t think i know her that well to say some of the things i see in the samples. Has anyone here written a character reference before? or have a job where you look at character references?? I just need some suggestions on where to start.
Post # 3
I would start by calling her and ask what she needs it for, how it effects her career, etc. In fact, I would ask her what she wants you to say. I frequently write academic references for students I don’t know all that well as it is university policy that we support their applications. The best way to say something personal is to have a chat with the person and ask them about their motivation, goals, why they want the position, etc. I have grades to back up the statements but you have your relationship with this person so you should be able to gauge what yu can honestly say. As a character reference, it is good to include how long you have known the person and in what capacity although I would not write that she is your mother-in-law, maybe as a close family friend for x years or something.
Post # 4
talk to her first then write something general starting with your relationship to her and how long you’ve known her. Write what her strengths are and her personality type. Don’t make statements about her work capacity unless you’ve worked with her.