(Closed) charging more for plus-sized bridesmaids’ dresses–who pays?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: How should we split the cost of the dresses?
    Each BM pays for her individual dress (2 pay more than the others) : (62 votes)
    90 %
    Split the cost of all the dresses (each BM pays the "average" price) : (0 votes)
    I pick up the extra cost (each BM pays the price of a 2-16 dress) : (6 votes)
    9 %
    Other option (explain below) : (1 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    3364 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    Knowing me I’d offer to pick up the extra cost, but shoot, being a plus size girl myself, im kinda used to having to pay a little extra for things! 

    Do they know its extra?? or will they be told about the additional cost for size? 

    Post # 4
    10287 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    You should just have each girl buy their own dresses. I’m plus size and I’m use to paying a little more because of the size. I doubt your voluptuous BM’s will have an issue with it. 

    Post # 5
    170 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Honestly?  I’d just have each Bridesmaid or Best Man buy their own individual gown without drawing attention to the price difference.  If the BMs with more expensive dresses say that they just can’t afford it offer to help out with the extra $30 or so.  I don’t think it would be a problem.  It’s sort of like paying extra for alterations.  If two of your BMs needed their skirt hemmed or dress let out, you wouldn’t make the rest of your BMs pitch in to help, right? 

    Post # 7
    3364 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    @bikinihoneymoon: How ridiculous of a difference in charge! Can you split up your orders?! Or just send your ladies to whoever they want to pay! Geesh! I would just let them handle it themselves and if they say anything to you, then worry about it! 

    Post # 8
    3709 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I think it’s pretty normal to have to pay extra for plus-sized clothing in general so I would just have each Bridesmaid or Best Man pay for their dress individually. If you want to cover the difference for those two girls it would be a nice gesture but totally not necessary. 

    Post # 10
    82 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I’m not sure how much more your extra cost is, but two of my girls are plus size and only had to pay an extra $20 each. i know it totally sucks to have to pay extra for the same dress, but $20 wasn’t super terrible. they paid for this extra cost.

    Post # 11
    284 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I voted other, because I paid for all of my girls dresses–one of my girls is plus size, the other 3 are not, but I picked up the cost of all of my girls dresses. I know it can be a nightmare to be in someone’s wedding, and I want to make this as painless as possible, so Fiance and I agreed that we are picking up the cost of just about everything for our attendants.

    Post # 12
    622 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011 - Vandiver Inn

    As someone who has been a plus-sized bridesmaid more than once, I always pay the extra myself.

    Post # 13
    987 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    The plus-sized girls should pay extra.  It wouldn’t be fair for the others to pay extra.  Same rule as dining out – you eat more, you put in more $ when the bill arrives!

    Post # 14
    6015 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    They should each pay for their own dress, you can make the order and have them repay you. It wouldn’t be fair to spread the cost of the one girl’s dress to them all, it’s not their fault she’s that size. 


    Post # 15
    16018 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    Each girl should pay for her own. Sometimes it costs more for tall girls to get extra fabric or other scenarios that have nothing to do with being plus-sized. I’m certainly not expecting anyone to pick up the extra I sometimes pay for being 5’11”. 🙂

    Post # 16
    2819 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    If the girls are paying for their own dresses already then they should pay the extra cost for the extra fabric. It is not your duty to pick up the tab.

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