(Closed) charity donation instead of favor?

posted 6 years ago in Favors
Post # 3
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227 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’ve been to a wedding where thsi was the case and it was on a little card, almost like a placecard on each place setting stating “In lieu of a wedding favor the bride adn groom have donated to x charity on your behalf. Thank you” 

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I personally do not think this is a good idea.  Many people may not wish to have their names associated with a particular charity, even if that charity is not necessarily associated with something that someone may consider to be highly controversial.  I think people generally prefer to choose the recipients of their giving based on their own beliefs, values, and priorities, and, even though this would be a donation that you are making with your money and not theirs, you still would be donating in other people’s names, and many people may not be comfortable with that.

Post # 5
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46374 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If you don’t want to have a favor, don’t have a favor. If you want to make a donation to charity, make a donation to charity. There is no need to announce to your wedding guests that you have done so. They don’t tell you about their donations

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Brielle:  I completely agree, I am one of those ultra picky givers and I really don’t like being associated at all with charities that I have not fully vetted or don’t agree with.  I think that it is just better to give no favors than charity favors.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

We chose to make a donation to the Susan G. Komen Breast Cancer organization.  We had a few signs made and placed them near the signature platter and bars.  Here’s a photo for reference:

For those of you that have a difference of opinion, we felt that the majority of our guests have been touched by breast cancer and would be understanding and supportive of our decision.  (As a matter of fact, my MOH had just recently fought breast cancer, so it was very personal).  We chose to make one donation in our names only.  I have always felt that favors are typically eaten within minutes and small gadgets are often put in the wastebasket at a later date.  Why not make a donation to an organization that can help humanity? 

Post # 7
Bee
1466 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Father's Vineyard Church/ A Touch of Class Banquet Center

We are doing a favor/donation. What we did was paired the favor with the theme of the charity. In our case, it was the American Lung Association. Both of my grandfather and Mr. D’s grandfather passed away from lung cancer. My grandmother also has lung disease. We are not going to say on behalf of or in honor of, but we are going to mention that in celebration of our day we are donating to the ALA.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I am making a donation in the name of my guests in lieu of a favor.  I can’t tell you how many  favors I’ve personally just not even taken.  I think that my nearest and dearest know my fiance and myself well enough to know that we weren’t being cheap or trying to associate anyone’s name with the charity.  In fact, we made a donation in the name of the group, not in each individual’s name.  We are having cute little vintage bottles of coke that have a tag with the symbol for the charity on one side, and the other side will say something like “Thank you for joining us as we begin our journey together.  In honor of your charity and love, we have made a donation to the ___ foundation in the name of our friends and family.  Thank you for being part of our lives, and for helping to save the lives of those less fortunate than ourselves.”  

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m not against donations to charities. It just seems a bit self-serving to have the need to tell your guests what you have done. It has nothing to do with them. It comes across like you need a pat on the back for doing what we all do.

I agree that most favors are a complete waste of money.

Post # 10
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Busy bee

I actually love the idea, but I’m big on donating to various causes in general.  @melisslp:  I think it’s great.  I know that some organizations have programs for this.  Ex:  The Canadian Cancer Society sells place cards like this: 

 

 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I was thinking about doing this, but wanted a small local charity, but I felt like most people wouldn’t know about it or care, so we just might make it without it being an offical favor. Favors like that can go into politics, and peoples personal views. I for one am very cognisant  about what organizations I donate too. I personally dislike the big name charities. For example like someone said, who would be against breast cancer? I am not but I would donate to smaller charity that has people donating their time and I know a higher percentage of the money goes directly to help families or into research, rather then to a big multinational organization that is into the multibillion dollar industry that is known as “charity” a large percent of their money goes to hiring people and lots of overhead causes rather than directly into research and helping people . That’s just my personal view, and  I know some of guest do active charity work and have some of the same views as me, and would be horrified if I made a donation like that. While other of guest wouldn’t recognize the smaller organizations that I would prefer to donate too because I work with them or know people who do.

 

Post # 11
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5984 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

In support of the OP, I don’t think she was wanting for this thread to become a debate on whether or not to make donations to charities.  She was asking if anyone had and how that was conveyed to the guests.  I got caught up in the “discussion” and I apologize.  Hopefully, the OP will get some assistance with this. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We are making a doniation in the name of “The Wedding Guests of the Rock Huggers” to the White Knot.  We are putting a small, business-sized card at each person’s seat saying something to the effect of “In leiu of a favors….etc, etc.”

Yes, its a bit controversial, and I don’t care.  This is an issue Mr. Rocks and I feel very strongly about.  

OP – if you are concerend that people might be offended by giving to a charity, you will be in a lose-lose situation.  Because if you donate (and don’t do the placecards) there will be people who say “how tacky – they did not do favors.”  You are damned if you do, damned if you don’t.

So I say, if you want to, then just do it!   

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