(Closed) Charity Donation instead of favors??

posted 3 years ago in Favors
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

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mfettig :  We’re doing this. We set aside a specific amount in our budget for favors, decided against doing them at all (we’re going to do a late night snack and have cake so I feel an edible favor is pointless), and we’re going to take that money and donate it to cancer research. We picked this since we both have a lot of immediate family who have been affected by cancer. 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee

My honest opinion:

 

1. Favors are completely unnecessary.  We had a fairly fancy wedding in a major Southern city and didn’t do them.  I don’t think any of our guests even noticed.

 

2. If you feel you MUST do them, make it edible. Chocolates, macarons, a monogrammed cookie, etc. A few yummy bites for the road.

 

3. I really dislike charity donations in lieu of favors.  One, if you want to donate a big chunk of money to non-profit, just do it.  No need to tell your guests how charitable you are.  Two, many people don’t appreciate money being donated in their name to a charity they don’t know about or don’t support.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

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mfettig :  We are donating in lieu of favors. Fiance and I are big into service, and we help with a homeless ministry together. We will be donating to that. Hope this helps!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Make the donation, and if you want to draw attention to the charity, put up a sign that says something like “To celebrate their marriage, bride and groom have made a donation To Blah Charity. [Insert description here.]”

Leave out any words about “in lieu of favors,” “in honor of the guests,” etc. It would open you up to criticism- why in lieu of favors? Why not cut centerpieces and donate? Or why not ask that any gifts to the couple should actually be given to charity?

It’s better to have no favors than to try to pass off a donation as a favor.

Post # 7
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Busy bee

While you have good intentions, making donations in lieu of wedding favors can come across as a bit off-putting, since you’re taking away something meant for the guests. No one ever decides to donate to charity in lieu of a $1000 wedding dress, or instead of flower centerpeices. I agree favors are usually a waste of money, so I say just skip them and have a fabulous wedding without them.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

I think it’s fine to in your budget reallocate favors to charity. Just don’t announce it as “in lieu of favors”–that’s tacky. You can announce it all you want, just not in lieu of favors.

It is not a gift to ME as your guest to donate to your favorite charity in your name. 

Families list charities for people to send “in lieu of flowers” for funerals because the flowers are for them, not for the guests. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

It comes across as holier than thou when you announce where you give your donations.  And as a guest it would not make me feel good to know you donated in lieu of a favor.  Favors aren’t necessary at all.  We didn’t have them and no one missed them.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper

I am all for donating to charity.

I am NOT for bragging about it.

Favors are optional anyway, so it always makes me feel like it is braggy when people point it out as if they are doing their guest a favor.  Guests won’t miss favors.  Just quietly give that money to charity.  There is no need to make a point to them that you chose not to give them something to give to something else.

Post # 11
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Busy bee

I think it would be lovely if you encouraged your guests to donate to charity in lieu of getting you a wedding gift.

It’s tacky to donate to charity in lieu of a wedding favor. 

 

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Have to say I disagree with almost everyone on here.  I do not feel favors are optional.  Perhaps it’s a local thing but I went to a wedding without favors and not only did everyone notice, people were gasping.  I thought that was cheap and tacky of them.  But another wedding announced a donation “in lieu of favors you don’t want or need” and everyone thought it was cute.   But maybe I’m partial, I gave out full bottles of champagne so it wouldn’t get thrown out.  

You should do what feels right to you. 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

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Kir474 :  anyone gasping in horror over a wedding without favours and referring to it as ‘cheap and tacky’ is missing a huge amount of irony.

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2017

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abouttodoit17 :  a favor is a gift thanking people for coming out to your special day to celebrate with you.  You should show your gratitude in some way similar to them showing their support 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

do not humblebrag at your wedding about donating to a charity- that would just make me feel stupid for giving you a gift you obviously don’t need. If you want people to donate to your charity then ask for donations in lieu of gifts. I don’t go to weddings to hear charity propaganda or get pressured into giving money away. You have your causes and I have mine, leave it alone. The point of charity is the give humbly, don’t brag. You want a gold star?

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