Post # 1
I am struggling on tipping vendors after our wedding. Of course, the wedding has come and gone and there are some vendors we have not tipped yet…photo, video, etc…
My question is – If one of my vendors is very active with a charity, would it be acceptable to make a donation to the charity in their name (~$100)? I keep reading that I should send a personal gift but to be honest, i have NO IDEA what a good personal gift would be. I of course plan on reviewing them all with rave reviews and sending them a personal thank you note.
If I didnt go the charity route, what would be a good alternative? Cash? How much? The base service costs were anywhere from 2,000 to 4.000 so I dont think that 10%-20% would be appropriate since that would range from 200 to 800 dollars which I think is a bit much?
Post # 3
No. Charity gifts are not appropriate for vendors. Cash is appropriate.
Post # 4
One, you don’t have to tip at all, you paid the vendor for their services. Tipping is totally at you and your husbands discretion. However if you decide to tip, I would send them a check with whatever you can afford to send. A donation to charity is normally done in place of actual favor type gifts to your wedding guest. Not your vendors.
Post # 5
Ahhhhh…. no! If you want to tip, tip in cash. They can donate it if they want.
I have NEVER heard you should get a vendor a personal gift. If you have a close friend or family member take care of something (like make a cake, day of coordinate, etc), then you could get them a gift.
What vendor are you thinking of? The only vendors I’m tipping are hair & makeup and then there’s built in gratuity for the bar/servers. I do not think you need to tip photographer & videographer.
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club
Cash is more appropriate, because then if they decide they want to donate the money, they can. If they need the money for something else, then they can use it for something else.
Post # 7
No. you wouldn’t give your hairdresser or waiter a chariable donation for a tip.
Post # 8
Sorry but I’d be pretty upset if you donated my tip to a charity!!! All of my vendors got a 20% tip and yes it was expensive, but it was a cost that we planned on.
Post # 10
Unless the vendor has something on their website about donating to their charity of choice in lieu of gratuity, then absolutely tipping should be done in cash. As another poster said, if they want to donate that money to the charity, that is their choice, but they could need it to pay their bills, or perhaps they use the money they are tipped for going out to dinner or saving up towards a vacation.
Post # 11
Wow…i didnt think it was THAT terrible of an idea….lol.
I only asked b/c they are like i said very active in this charity and have solicited for this charity before publically. And since this was for someone who owns their own business and generally wouldnt get a tip anyway (photo or video for example) I just thought it might be a nice gesture.
Looks like cash is still and always will be king, huh?