(Closed) Charity Donations as favors?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
3175 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@FutureDean: I was responding to the OP’s question. What exactly about my response makes me “classless”? I’d prefer not to be called names, especially when I’ve given my opinion in a respectful way. 

FWIW, I’m quite familiar with what charity options there are, and I still prefer charity to be a private matter. For those who disagree, that’s their perrogative, but when I’m asked for my opinion, I’ll give it respectfully.

Post # 18
747 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

like really…who cares if i didn’t get you ( guests) favors?? why would i spent money for you to throw away my “favor” to you, or just to make you some little edible things so that is eaten in a second just like the dessert you’ll have at the wedding.? NOW THAT”S A WASTE OF MONEY…not every guests are the same and expect favors, like if anything they should get ME favors because is my wedding and i’m already spending sooo much to impress YOU. A donation is a great thing to do…i do not agree with other people here but to each their own!

Post # 19
2849 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I don’t think favors are necessary to give to guests. Most of the weddings I’ve been to haven’t given out favors, and nobody missed them. The ones that did give out favors were giving out useless trinkets that most people left behind. I think giving to charity is great, and it will probably be a better use of your money. I don’t think you have to announce to your guests that you are donating money on their behalf, just give the donation in private.

Post # 20
481 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think giving a donation in lieu of a favor is a great idea – personally, I think my guests would think it was a nice gesture. I have been to several weddings where charitable donations made in lieu of favors were very well received, so I would be surprised if my guests took offense to something like that. But, maybe that is just my social circle.

For our wedding, we have decided to give each guest a macaroon with a small tag attached stating that, in lieu of a favor, a donation has been made to X charity, in honour of one of my family members (who recently passed away and was greatly supported by the organization we are making our donation to). I feel like this is a much more worthwhile use of our money, rather than giving trinkets that no one actually wants. In addition, it allows us to incorporate my family member (who was very close to me) into our wedding. I would be very shocked (and hurt) if any of my guests had a problem with this. 

Post # 21
70 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@MrsJSki:  That’s what we are doing! We plan to make a donation in each guest’s name to our favorite charity (an animal rescue). We are both big supporters of animal rescue/adoption so I think this reflects our personalities and us as a couple 🙂 Everyone who I’ve shared this idea with loved it! We’re also going to do a photo booth that will print out picture strips for our guests to take home.

The way I see it, our guests are already being treated to a whole weekend of fun, celebrating, yummy food and great party (I hope)! Knowing our families and friends, I doubt anyone feels like they “deserve” to get a favor for their time. Plus, I think they’d rather have the $ go towards helping animals (and an open bar)! That’s just our family/friends though.

Everyone is different but I think it’s a great idea 🙂 Do whatever makes you happy!

Post # 22
645 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’ve been to a couple weddings where they did donations. The last wedding I went to gave to the American Lung Association in SC because the bride lost her grandpa to lung smoking. Sounds like a great cause and good thing right? Maybe for most but as a very strong opponent of Animal Testing I wasn’t too pleased that someone gave money to a charity that hurts animals on my behalf. I didn’t say anything and really only Darling Husband knew my irritation but I would have rather had nothing.

Obviously I doubt most people are like me but I just thought I’d share my personal feelings on the matter. I don’t judge the couple or people that do it I would just prefer not to be in any way associated with something like that.

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