(Closed) Charity favors? ya or nay?

posted 5 years ago in Favors
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I love love love this!!! We were going to do this, but have since dropped favors entirely due to cost and not really NEEDING them. Choose a nonprofit y’all are passionate about- I think it’s great!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

I have mixed feelings on the donation to charity thing.  Maybe I’d rather donate to another charity, etc. (ETA; actually there are some charities that I don’t want to contribute to). However, I’d MUCH rather have a donation to charity than some knick-knack that will get thrown out or left behind. 

Basically, for me, if it’s a nice edible product I’m happy to have the favor, otherwise give the money to a charity.  

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I am on the fence about this. It would depend on the charity. If it was a charity I disagreed with, or found their practices to be less than ethical, I’d be mildly upset about having money donated in my honor, or in my name or whatnot.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Love this idea! So many guests don’t even care about favours anyways. May as well put that money to good use 🙂

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@fascinated:  Agree with this.  Not to mention, what if it’s a charity not all of your guests support, like perhaps something religiously affiliated or even just a charity a guest has heard something negative about?

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Yes! I love this. Here’s an idea for you…I attended a wedding where guests dropped their escort card holder (wine cork) into a jar labeled with the name of the charity – I forget if the bride and groom had a preset amount of money that they planned to divvy up by votes, or if they were just going to give to whichever one had the most. But I thought it was a cute idea and a nice way to participate, because a common criticisim of charity favors is what if your guests don’t support that charity – well this way they get to have some choice. Best of luck!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club

I think I would rather have no favor… there are some charitys that I would hate for my name to be associated with.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

You may be surprised that even for a charities as seemingly universally supported as Cancer there may be some who don’t agree with a particular foundation.  I can point you to blogs that are seething with anger at the American Cancer Society (they don’t fund pediatric cancer research as much as the bloggers would like.)  Or Susan G Koman – there was the recent brouhaha over planned parenthood. 

Red Cross – some feel too much is spent on the directors.

Salvation Army – too religious for some

Boy Scouts – too homophobic for many

It may be hard to find universally accepted charities. 

But you could just skip favors and make the donation to the chairty of your choice as a way to honor your grandparents without saying anything to anyone.  I really doubt most people would even think twice about ‘no favor’.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Choose an organization that you’re passionate about and then visit charity navigator and look at the percentage of their funding that goes to administration. For example, Susan G. Komen gives a really high, and questionable, percentage to administration. Also, try to choose an org. that is not politically or religiously affiliated- your local animal rescue or a local food bank.

 

If you donate in people’s names you have to be able to provide receipts to those individuals.

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Just piping up again because someone mentioned it… I have a vehement distaste of the Red Cross for how they treated my grandmother when her house burned down in San Diego. She was on the news, I believe.

I would absolutely not want my name associated with them.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - The Skinner Barn

@MissParrot:  We might be doing charity favors. It’s the only type of favor we can really agree on. We were planning on donating to two charities that represent both of us. A wounded soldier foundation for him since he’s active duty Army and an autism-focused theraputic horseback riding program for me since I’m an autism support teacher.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

@MissParrot:  i think it’s just better to not mention it to anyone except maybe your parents, if you still want to do it. the last few weddings i went to didn’t have favors, i didn’t wonder about them. if you want to donate instead, that’s great, but do it privately.

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