Post # 1
I managed to convince my fiance that instead of “normal” favors for our guests, we will donate money to the humane society where we adopted our two dogs, who are very much family to us (they cannot be at the wedding, so we thought this was a good way to incorporate our love of dogs). The humane society will put an engraved brick into the entry terrace for our donation as well, which I think will be a nice commemoration of our wedding.
I’m not entirely positive how we should go about telling our guests about the donation, however. I figure we’ll say something like “In lieu of a favor, a donation has been made the the Humane Society in your name,” and my Fiance likes the idea of putting an actual photo of a dog or cat from the shelter next to these words.
I thought about Moo cards, but how could we give them to guests in a way that seems pulled together and elegant? Or we could put it on escort cards somehow, but I can’t quite picture that.
Any ideas, Bees?
Post # 3
A few ideas I had were:
1) A postcard (cheap/free ones from Vistaprint preferably) with a picture of your dogs and something about how the shelter means a lot to you and your dogs + the in lieu of blah blah blah verbiage. I think the less you spend on getting the message out, the better, since that means more money for the charity!
2) A simple sign (with the dogs’ picture) in a nice frame by the guestbook or by the escort cards that has the in lieu of verbiage. This is a nice idea because it doesn’t seem like you are “bragging” that you donated to charity, especially if you phrase it in a way that shows this charity is meaningful to you especially because of your dogs. It’s more of an FYI, if you are interested in knowing, type of thing. I know the whole “Why do you have to tell your guests?” issue is hotly debated online.
3) The ASPCA offers placecards/escort cards that include the in honor message at the bottom or in the back of each one. This at least does double duty.
I looked at the Moo cards but they were too small for me to display on each place setting IMO. That’s why I was thinking the postcard is more impactful.
Post # 4
@lilbluebird: All good ideas to take back to the FI! I hadn’t thought of the single, framed FYI idea.
Post # 5
We donated to the Humane Society too. 🙂 And White Sox Charities.
We used a silver 8×10 inch frame and made a sign for each charity with the charities logo on it and pictures having to do with the charity(us with our dog, volunteering at the sheltar, at a Sox game), the mission statement of the charity and why it was meaningful to us. Easily all made on Powerpoint and printed at home.
People will appreciate it more if there are pictures of you with your dogs and you explain why you chose the charity as opposed to a “donation has been made…”
Post # 6
From the site above: “Contact the charity of your choice since many have table cards already printed. If not then consider writing in the wedding program “Thank you so much for being a part of our wedding. A donation has been made in your name to (charity name)” or print table cards yourself with one of the following choices for wording:
Thank you for sharing this day with us. In recognition of your love and support, we have made a donation in your name to (Name of Charity].
In lieu of favors, we have made a donation to (Name of Charity) in honor of the guests of the Doe-Smith wedding. “
I have also seen a simple printed card (inexpensive) that states this and is placed in each table setting.
Post # 7
I love the idea of having a picture of you and your dogs just in a large frame on the guestbook table– it puts the information out there without being ostentatious.
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- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I really like the idea of a framed photo of your dogs with a note on the escort or guest book table. As a guest, I’d be drawn to the photo “Oh, look at the cute puppies,” then “Aw, that’s so sweet!”