Charters of the Hive – #102

posted 12 months ago in TTC
Post # 916
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3529 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 29th, 2016

jbirdlee1015 :  Thank you! I can only hope that it will all work out. I went from having extreme anxiety to being depressed. I thought I was managing it okay but my mom and youger sister have noticed …to give some perspective, my younger sister never picks up on social cues (on the spectrum) and even she said that I seem flat and unlike myself. I can’t imagine waiting a full year… especially with my husband being in his late 40s. My patience never would have allowed it. I wish that would make me feel better but it doesn’t.

Total side note/tangent: I’m trying to read up on how people handle job searching while pursuing fertility treatment and it seems like there are two camps – be open and tell the prospective employer about it or keep it under wraps, prove yourself first or try to make your schedule work around treatment as best you can without letting anyone know. It’s tough because I want a family more than anything… I wouldn’t call myself a career woman – I work because I have to, and I chose to do something that I find meaningful. I’d gladly work part-time if I thought we could live the lifestyle I want on that kind of budget, but that’s not currently the case. Since working full-time is my current reality, I worry about jeopardizing my career by starting a new job and potentially needing to take off time right away, and turning up pregnant 2 seconds later. But I also don’t want to wait. But I’m getting ahead of myself here, since I still have to get through the next two rounds and get an offer, and we still have to wait on my husband’s biopsy to see if we even have any sperm to work with. Pray for my sanity! 

Post # 917
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819 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

Well….I may have spoken too soon about my great LP. I ended up having such heavy bleeding that I had to go to the emergency clinic while out of town at a conference. I ended up narrowly avioding the ER but it was horrific, even for me with my normally heavy periods. So I ended up taking an HPT on CD3 because the bleeding was so bad, and I got the FAINTEST evap line ever. So I don’t know if it was another early MC or just a fluke, ugh. I’m a little all over the place emotionally now. 

Good news though, I did see my GP yesterday and she has referred me to a PCOS and fertility specialist. So now I will get proper monitoring, inlcuding laps and ultrasounds to make sure I’m ovulating well as we get ready to start TTC again. I’m very thankful for that since I have a lot to deal with reproductive wise. 

MrsMellyBean :  Thanks! Yes, they said once I get the antibiotic treatment my symptoms might get better. If not it could be adenomysosis or more endo. So it’s a bit of a waiting game for now but that’s okay. Hope your pregnancy is going well!

Post # 918
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819 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

livster :  Crossing all my fingers and toes for you bee!

 

Post # 919
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1469 posts
Bumble bee

jbirdlee1015 :  It kind of worked for me last night! I woke up a few times throughout the night and just took my temp each time, as each time I woke up it was after an hour or two of sleep. My thermometer remembers the last 30 temps so that’s a nice feature I’m appreciating. I managed to get 1.5 hours of sleep before my alarm this morning so I ended up taking my temp at my usual time. Not sure if it’s 100% accurate, but it’ll have to do!

Post # 920
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278 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

ladyvictoria :  I feel you on the working full time because you have to for your way of life. It’s so hard to put career first when that’s not where your heart lies, but you don’t want to jeopardize your livelihood and then end up impacting the welfare of your future family because you weren’t thinking with your head.

I’m definitely envious of people at work who already have their kids since they don’t have to worry about, well first of all getting pregnant of course, but then all the politics of tons of doctors appointments, pregnancy, and maternity leave. I know they must have their struggles too with everything else kid related, it’s just not as front and center at the office as someone who’s constantly out for suspicious appointments or a heavily pregnant woman who you know will be taking a lot of time off soon.

catmom17 :  Oh wow bee, I’m glad you’re okay and avoided the ER, I’m sure you will forever wonder what the heck happened and if it was a CP. I hope everything goes well as you prep for trying, it sounds like you have a good team to take care of you.

hopfenn :  That’s super fancy, mine doesn’t even light up! I still like my basic BBT 😎🌡

Post # 921
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3529 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 29th, 2016

jbirdlee1015 :  Yes, that’s exactly it! I wouldn’t be concerned at all in my current role since I’ve been here for 2+ years and have proven myself. But it would be a different story on a new job. But I’ll cross that bridge if and when I get there. My second round interview is on Tuesday! 

I had my HSG this morning and it went much more quickly than I had anticipated, which is fortunate because I did find it to be pretty uncomfortable. But the RE said that everything looks great so I’m glad that it’s out of the way now. Back to waiting for hubby’s surgery and biopsy! 

Post # 922
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819 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

jbirdlee1015 :  Thank you. Yes, I will always wonder especially since my CP in May. If it was another CP it seems like I’m not having trouble getting pregnant now, so maybe that’s a silver lining. 

ladyvictoria :  Glad your HSG went well! I was lucky and got to have mine under anesthesia while they were doing my lap. Sending you all the prayers and good vibes for D.H’s biopsy!

Post # 923
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3529 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 29th, 2016

catmom17 :  Thank you! All of the nurses reassured me that the RE was great with them but what else would you expect them to say? They were right though. I got myself all worked up about it for nothing, but maybe it’s better that I was expecting it to be worse? Who knows, I’m just glad it’s over lol And thank you! I’ll take all of the prayers and good vibes because I really hope that they find some usable sperm in there. It would be devastating if they didn’t 🙁 

Post # 924
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1469 posts
Bumble bee

ladyvictoria :  Glad to hear your HSG went well, even though it was a bit uncomfortable. You have no idea how much I’m praying for you and your husband that they find some usable sperm. It’s actually on my mind all the time and I just want it for you so badly! You both sound like you are going to make seriously amazing parents and deserve this baby!

Post # 925
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3529 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 29th, 2016

hopfenn :  That is so incredibly sweet of you! Thank you so much, I really do appreciate your kind thoughts and prayers. This journey has opened my eyes to the amazing communities made up of kind women (and men) like you. It feels like we’re all on the same team rooting for each other, which is amazing to have when not everyone around you in real life is clued in to what’s going on. Thank you, a million times over!

Post # 926
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1469 posts
Bumble bee

ladyvictoria :  I agree with you x1000! We’re all going through our own highs and lows, and it has been so amazing having a community of people going through the same things, and people who just really understand. I always think about it every time I mention TTC to someone in my life (outside of the bee), and their responses always make it clear that, while they want to be supportive, they’re just not in the same place and can’t truly be supportive on the level that I need.

I think we’re so lucky to be alive in a time where we have the internet and communities like this available so we aren’t alone! 

Post # 927
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3529 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 29th, 2016

hopfenn :  Absolutely! I’m grateful for communities like the Bee and the medical advancements that will hopefully allow us to conceive children of our own. Out of all of the kinds of male infertility, ours seems like the most difficult to work with, but if they’re able to find even 100 sperm then that’s a hundred opportunities to fertilize an egg with ICSI. It blows my mind and gives me hope. 

Post # 928
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1469 posts
Bumble bee

ladyvictoria :  That’s SO incredible! Gosh, I so, so, soooo hope they find some for you guys!! When is the biopsy?

Post # 929
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3529 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 29th, 2016

hopfenn :  Isn’t it? I hope so too. I feel like I’m holding my breath waiting for the day to come so that I can know our fate. It’s at the end of April. Just before our 3 year anniversary so we’ll have to get our romantic time in before the surgery! lol 

Post # 930
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1469 posts
Bumble bee

ladyvictoria :  Oh gosh that’s so far away! But at least it’s April 1st now and every day is one day closer! 

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