(Closed) Charters of the Hive #76

posted 6 years ago in TTC
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  • Post # 421
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

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    auggiefrog:  Best of luck this cycle!  I really hope you get your sticky baby ASAP.  SMEP does sound like an awful lot of BD, but maybe it’s worth a shot?  Enjoy grilling this weekend!  What do you plan on making?

    Post # 422
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

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    MiJeS1104:  yay yay yay!  So glad to hear your good news!

    Post # 423
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

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    MiJeS1104:  Congrats!!!

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    arielmerms:  I’m probably making hamburgers and veggies. Thanks.  

    Post # 424
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

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    MiJeS1104:  That’s great news!!! Yay!!! So happy for you!

    Post # 425
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

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    auggiefrog:  hi lady! i’ve been exactly where you are, and understand completely how you’re feeling. I know it’s crazy to set timelines for ourselves, but it’s hard not to. Especially for something that seemingly comes easily to other people. It’s difficult, and heartbreaking. And I often find myself feeling angry at how unfair this is. A few things I try to remember:

    1) Everyone has tough crap in their lives. This happens to be ours. It sucks, and it hurts…but we’re also lucky to have incredible partners who we can lean on when it feels tough.

    2) I’m 11 months, but we’re both still pretty “new” to this. We’re  SO far away from throwing in the towel. 

    3) When our time comes, because it will, we will appreciate it so much, because we earned it. And our little ones are going to be so loved it’s unreal.

    Believe me. I know it’s hard to remember all this when AF comes, or on the bad days…and maybe a break from the bee is a good idea. In terms of charting, this cycle re-confirmed for me that it stresses me the eff out. I know I ovulate, and I know approximately when it happens, so if we’re having sex EOD, what difference does it REALLY  make? Maybe taking a month off charting will help. Here’s hoping April is our month!

    Post # 427
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    My temp dropped down to where it was so either AF is coming or I had a cold but wasn’t stuffy lol

    Post # 428
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

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    auggiefrog:  I replied to you on 6+ thread. But just reiterating that I’m here for you and I just know you will get your sticky bfp soon. Xoxox

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    MiJeS1104:  Congratulations!! I loved seeing those green lines on your chart today.

    Post # 429
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I forgot to copy the source code so sorry for the broken links!

    Feist: Those strips definitely look positive! I wouldn’t try reading the lines on the digital though. They’re Clearblue right? I don’t know how similar they are to the Clearblue Monitor, but I know I’ve read with those not to read the lines. If you were using them long enough then you might be able to read them by comparison but hopefully you’re not going to need them that long!

    auggiefrog: I hope this 8th cycle bring you lots of luck. A relaxed approach might be a good idea, especially since you likely know your cycles well enough. You won’t know exact dates or anything but you will know it well enough that you should be able to have good timing anyway.

    MiJeS1104: Woohoo! 😀

    Post # 430
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

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    saratiara2:  I love your post. I agree with everything you said! This journey is for sure a struggle, but I know how close we have gotten through it. I think we will be better parents for it, too! Thinking of you and hoping April brings you a year end baby and something extra special to ring in the New year.

    I just got done with acupuncture again today. She is working on healing my foot (it even bled where the needles were, and hurt like a beast during treatment). I am irrationally worried because when she asked where I was in my cycle, she was surprised and said based on my pulse, she would have expected me to say closer to ovulation (I am 7dpo). Of course I thought about it the entire treatment (is it possible to actually not ovulate after positive opk, temp rise, no more ewcm etc). At the end she said a few different times how much she was “liking” my pulse today, and that she doesn’t want to get my hopes up but she was excited. I’m taking it all with a grain of salt because after googling it, a slippery pulse can mean a lot of things. Wah wah…

    Post # 431
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

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    auggiefrog:  Maybe a break from WB or charting will be good? I’m sorry. It will happen.

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    NewfieBullet:  it’s not just the strip, the digital is reading it as negative. Before the strips looked like normal OPKs to me. I know it’s supposed to be more sensitive to changes rather than just levels but the test line is SO LIGHT. I’m suspecting they may have been ruined by being frozen in transport, we did have our coldest winter ever on record here (average high of 12 F.) If that’s the case I’m hoping I can get my money back bc those things are way too expensive.

    Post # 432
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011 - Boy #1 12/2015, boy #2 02/2018

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    MiJeS1104:  Yey so happy for you. Have a wonderful pregnancy and sticky baby. 🙂

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    auggiefrog: Responding to your post in the 6+ months TTC thread. Big hugs.

    Anyone here from the South/Midwest? 

     

    Post # 433
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

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    BeverlyGeese:  Our new way of being positive is that if we DO need ivf or iui, we have the highest success rate possible given our age/diagnosis, and i’ve ALWAYS  wanted twins, but they don’t run in either of our families. ..maybe this is God’s weird way of making that wish come true :p Gotta try and make lemonade,  right?

    I’ve heard fantastic things about accupuncture! I hope it helps with your foot! 

    Post # 434
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011 - Boy #1 12/2015, boy #2 02/2018

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    saratiara2:  Me too I woud much rather have twins than go through this again. I hear Clomid increases your chances of conceiving twins. Maybe that’s what I need to try lol!

    Post # 435
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - backyard in the woods

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    auggiefrog:  Sorry you’re having such a hard time. My 6 months mark was the worst for me- I totally get it. In my experience it does get easier after that point. The anniversary of when most women are pregnant (6 mo, 1 yr etc.) are stilll very hard, but the rest kind of blend together once you accept that your journey is different. Remember that 6 months is average, so that means 50% of women get pregnant before and 50% after.

    As for advice going forward, I think what works is different for everyone. I stopped POAS around 6 months because it was too heartbreaking. I also became more chill about my charts over time. I know my body well so if I sleep in or miss a day I can still see the overall trend and know I’ve O’ed or when to expect AF.  I’ve also developed a coping mechanism of not getting my hopes up by any ‘symptoms’ of good looking charts. I expect AF instead of the other way around. I helps it hurt less each month. If I do get pregnant it’ll be above my expectations as opposed to having my expectations crushed each month, if that makes sense? Not gonna lie, I still hope (though I try to squash it down with rationality so as to not get too worked up lol) and am nowhere near giving up, but there’s a difference mentally between the two mind states I noted above. I’ve noticed some of the other long(er) time TTC Charter’s employ the same mindset and/or POAS policies. Hopefully you never reach another one of the ‘anniversaries’ (or even have another AF) but understand that either way there are many women who have been or are currently in your shoes and empathise, and you are not alone. *giant hugs*

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    MiJeS1104:  Yay! Congrats!

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    candy11:  I undestand something feeling like forever and yet no time at all at the same time. Good luck!!

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