- 4 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
Feist: These photos are fantastic! I’d LOVE to roam at will and just enjoy wherever you happen to be at the time – living in the moment at its best! We have beautiful scenery in Canada too, but I’ve never seen anything quite like this. You just gave me the travel bug! I hope you framed that first pic – gorgeous!
NewfieBullet: Aww Congratulations!! We missed each other last time (I was just getting PG as you were starting TTC) and now we’ve missed each other again! How old is your LO now? Elijah turns 2 in 10 days and I can’t believe how fast time has gone. It’s so bittersweet watching the markers of life come and go!
MrsMellyBean: Your honeymoon sounds fabulous! I have a little honeymoon-envy going on over here – we had family visit from England to come to our wedding so we gave up the honeymoon to spend time with them after the wedding before they flew home. It was worth it, but still. You need to post a pic of your lodgings while there so I can live vicariously through you! I have mild PCOS so I can easily say it’s not the worst thing in the world because it hasn’t been for me, but I know for some it’s debilitating and so limiting when TTC. It’s hard to say where in the range you’d fall if you do have it, but I just really hope it’s not something that puts a big hindrance on TTC for you. What’s your average cycle length right now? Are you confirming ovulation? As for the reactions of those around you being less than supportive in the way you need…I’m sorry. Sometimes all you need is just a hug and for them to say they’re sorry you’re hurting. I think advice from someone who can’t empathize is pretty useless, and saying things like “it’ll happen when it happens” or “it’ll happen when you least expect it”, “just relax” can be dismissive. I learned the last time around (10 months TTC with an early loss in the middle) that you just have to forgive their lack of understanding and their sometimes thoughtless or careless words BECAUSE they don’t understand. It’s annoying as hell, but they have no idea. Ignorance isn’t always bliss, but when I think that to get it they’d have to live it, I wouldn’t wish that on them. So it’s like “I wish you understood, but I’m glad the reason you don’t understand is that you’ve never been through it”. Maybe next time you bring it up or they do, just tell them that all they need to know is that you feel lonely in your pain, that you’re hurting, and all you want and all you need is for them to say “I know. I’m sorry. I’m here”. Tell them you don’t want or need advice, you don’t want platitudes or throwaway cliche comments. You just want them to hug you, tell you they love you, and maybe cry with you when you cry.
kes18: Your Mother-In-Law sounds like a doll 😛 Traveling with kids sucks so I hope along with all the planning she’s doing on behalf of your vacation time includes her volunteering to do a lot of babysitting! The sleep issues with kids and travel are enough to make anything sound unappealing.