(Closed) Charters of the Hive: Part XVII

posted 9 years ago in TTC
Post # 452
Hostess
6422 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@hardtoconcentrate:  I’m sorry! that is a LOT to handle at one time. I keep hearing this from girls, and its true for anything. it’s really hard to think when things become real. Sadly, I can’t relate in the same way that the girls on the 6+/ 1 year + TTC boards :/ , but what I can say is that this seems like a good next step, right? This is helping you get one more step closer to being pregnant.  πŸ™‚   For me, being ambushed with pamphlets and tests when i didnt know about it is almost better than making the appointment and then counting down the days until the “talk” with my Dr. I go into a downspiral spiral from anxiety and impatience. It doesnt make it any less overwhelming though. I’m sorry… xxx hugs through the internet!

Post # 453
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2961 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@chelles07:  Thank you.  It is a blessing that she’s so proactive, and I’m starting to feel better about it.  I just felt a little blindsided…but I’m sure it’s for the best.  Hope you’re doing ok today and able to keep your mind off the TTC limbo. πŸ™‚

 

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@FreckledFox:  Thank you.  You know, I hadn’t thought about it like that – I probably would have been a lot more anxious if I had known this all was coming today.  So, maybe it is better.  For now, we wait until AF shows up next week and then we start the rest of the tests, so I have some time to prepare myself for the fact that we’re doing fertility testing.

Post # 454
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2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@hardtoconcentrate:  I don’t blame you for feeling overwhelmed. That’s a HUGE bomb to have dropped on you when you aren’t expecting it. Now that you’ve had some time to clear your head, I’m glad that you’re feeling better and also that you have a proactive Doctor who isn’t going to brush aside any potential concerns. I’m sure everything will be fine, and if not, you have a Doctor that’s already on your side and taking action to make sure you get a behbeh for your own. Hugs and hang in there!

Post # 455
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397 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@hardtoconcentrate:  Aw girl! I’m so sorry that you’re feeling so overwhelmed. Just try to keep telling yourself that it’s a good thing. They’re going to help you get that baby in your belly that you so badly deserve. I’m glad she was thorough in covering all the bases. You’ll have answers soon deary. Have you told DH how your day went so far? How does he feel? And p.s thanks for the input on my temp πŸ˜‰

Post # 456
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@hardtoconcentrate:  hey girlie. I haven’t been very active on this thread lately mostly because I can’t keep up, but wanted to chime in here today to give you a virtual hug πŸ™‚ It is so totally normal to have the reaction you did. When my GP started using the word “infertility” and “fertility clinic” I had a meltdown and felt so sad. It has turned out to be the biggest blessing that she was proactive in this journey, as we were only about 4 months into TTC’ing at the time. Without the referral and testing that was done (with her and with the RE) we would have very easily (and likely!) gone a full year (Sept 2013) with no BFP, and no answers as to why. It would have been another few months of testing and investigative cycles and would have more than likely started treating our issues this time NEXT year. Crazy.

It is overwhelming, so take the time to feel upset/angry/curious/down/anxious etc and just let yourself FEEL. It’s okay. None of these tests they are running means anything at this point. And heck, if something comes up, you are in the best of hands and can work torwards getting your LO that much faster, like

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@Yellow.Clover:  suggested. I think it’s wonderful that your doctor took the time to be proactive even if it is a bit early, typically speaking. But heck – like I said, my doctor ran them at 4 months TTC and we are both youngish (29), and otherwise very healthy.

I am so glad that I ended up in the hands of a specialist. I am not saying you’ll end up here, but please know that IF (BIG IF!!) you do, they do a great job at doing everything in their power to get you pregnant. My clinic has been so great and I’m feeling more optimistic than ever that we will see our BFP soon. Just being able to go, call, and be checked on frequently has eliminated a lot of stress and “what ifs” which has made a world of difference.

Anyways, don’t freak out, but keep us posted. I am sure everything is just fine,and heck – if it isn’t, you’ll be in the best care possible and you’ll be celebrating a BFP soon!!! πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

*HUGS*!!!

Post # 457
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240 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@FreckledFox:  

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@hardtoconcentrate:  Thanks girls πŸ™‚

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@hardtoconcentrate:  I’m so sorry. **hugs**  I can see how that would be very overwhelming. Try to stay positive…you’re doctor sounds better than many others!!  I’m keeping my FX for you!

Post # 458
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816 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

So I keep running to the restroom thinking that I need to put a tampon in but it’s just tons of watery CM. 

Post # 459
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

You ladies are such a wonderful support system.  Thank you so much for the kind words – they have really helped me to calm down and see the good in this. 

 

@MrsCarnival:  Thank you!  I’m starting to realize that I’m lucky that she is so proactive. 

 

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@krystallite:  Thanks. I am feeling better.  I haven’t told him yet and I’m trying to figure out the best time to.  The good thing is that he’s completely on board with an SA and even said last month that if we go 3 cycles since his prostate infection got healed without success, he wants an SA (this is our 2nd since). So, I’m very thankful he’s super supportive and not going to be a roadblock.  But, timing sucks because we’re going out to a nice dinner date tonight, so I’m not sure when to talk about it.  I might cry, so I don’t want to talk about it at dinner, but I can’t wait until after.  So, hopefully we can find a way for this not to ruin our night.

 

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@StaceyA:  Hi, it’s so good to see you.  Thank you so much for the message.  You are definitely right – I forgot that you also have a proactive doctor and that’s why you’re already so far along in the process.  I remember telling you during all that that this was a good thing, but it’s hard to realize that for ourselves when it’s happening because our emotions get involved.  I know that rationally this is a great thing.  It’s just the emotional side that still wants to cry a little bit.  I’m getting there, though.  Thanks again, it’s great to hear from you.  Hope you stop in more – I miss you!

Post # 460
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2961 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MrsAMac:  Thank you. πŸ™‚  I know, if I had a doctor that was dragging her feet, I’d be complaining about that, I’m sure.  So, this is definitely the better route. 

Post # 461
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1733 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@hardtoconcentrate:  It is always hard when you have to stop and think that you could be in someone else’s shoe’s you NEVER thought you’d be in. I used to look at charts on FF with all the meds on them and thinking “well, i’ll never need all those”. I also skipped all the chapters in the back of TCOYF where the “issues” were discussed with the same feeling that Iwould never need to read them. Funny how it turns out sometimes LOL.

Honestly, don’t be upset. There is a fabulous chance that your bloodwork will come back clean as a whistle, as will DH’s and this will all just be a minor blip in the radar. Try not to get too down or discouraged or worried. I know it’s way easier said than done but by this time next week it may be a non-issue πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ Enjoy your weekend, your date night and all that and think positive. If your tests come back great, perfect! And if they don’t, you’re moving in the right direction to get you your LO!!! *HUGS*. I know it’s hard, and I’m sorry you were blindsided. That is the hardest part. xoox

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@chelles07:  good luck if you are testing this weekend. I always get lots of watery CM before AF but it varies from person to person! πŸ™‚

Post # 462
Hostess
6422 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@chelles07:  had those days!  DH caught my facial expression once when i felt it. You could never explain that to a guy, ever…. glad its not AF though!

Post # 463
Member
2961 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@StaceyA:  It is crazy when I look back to before I started this process how I thought it would go.  I certainly didn’t think it would be 3 months of performance issues to a congestitive prostatitis diagnosis to a lot of unsexy timed BD-ing and then fertility testing.  Ugh, it sounds awful when I put it that way.  BUT, I know it’s for an amazing end result, and that makes it totally worth it.  Luckily from being on the Bee so much, I know so much about these tests that I’m getting less freaked out.  Like the progestrone draw today – I know I likely don’t have a progestrone issue with a 14 day LP and 1 day of spotting, but if I do, I know it’s an easy thing to correct through creams, etc.  It’s when we get to the HSG that I get nervous.  That one freaks me out so we might be waiting a couple months on that.  Didn’t you have a pelvic ultrasound?  I’m going to have that in a couple weeks.  If you did, can you tell me about it?

Post # 465
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397 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@hardtoconcentrate:  That’s great that DH is already on board for the SA. Hopefully getting everything out there now (on the bee at least) will give you a bit of time to process everything before dinner. I’m sure it won’t ruin your night. DH sounds like a wonderful man. He’ll see that this is all a step forward for you two. Enjoy your special night! *hugs*

Post # 466
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2961 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@StaceyA:  thank you! xoxo

 

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@krystallite:  This definitely helped. I feel like I’ll be able to talk about it more calmly than I would have if I called him at work right after the appointment. Thanks again! Btw are you POAS this wknd?

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