(Closed) Charters of the Hive XLVI

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  • Post # 197
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

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    @Christy42213:  I’m really sorry about your ultrasounds results.  I know how you feel about finding out things may not happen naturally, it is devastating.  We were just told basically the same thing (not PCOS but MFI).  This is not the way I imagined things to be either.

    But you sound like a woman of faith and I know it seems hard (even impossible) to imagine God giving you this challange, but just remember that the plan He has in store for you is much greater than the plan you have for yourself. 

    Like PP’s have said many women have great success with Clomid and I hope that will be the case for you. We are all here for you anytime you need to vent.  {hugs}

    Post # 198
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

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    @Turtle83:  I think it’s minimum 3. At least thats what I’ve been going off of :/  FX’d for crosshairs!

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    @PeachBee:  I’m sorry, I’m not sure why your temp hasn’t gone up but you’re right it could be a delayed rise.  It wouldn’t hurt to call your clinic and ask.  Hope that temp goes up tommorrow!

    AFM, I just had my bloodwork and an ultrasound done last cycle and am waiting to see my RE next week to discuss our next steps.  Here in BC, we can get our lab results online and from what I can interpret all my numbers are coming in at a good range.  My TSH even came back lower on my CD3 test than my CD 21 πŸ™‚  Obviously I’m not a pro, and am just going off of my internet research but I am hopeful that my results will remain good and we *FX’d* will just be working with DH’s MFI.

     

    Post # 199
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2006

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    @Christy42213: @Turtle Bride:  “Life isn’t fair, I know a lot of unhealthy people that get pregnant easily and healthy people that have trouble conceiving, it’s just the way it is.”

    She speaks the truth. 

    I’m so sorry you’re hurting. I haven’t been in your exact spot, but I’ve been there. There’s no shame in getting help. If you choose to do whatever it takes to conceive and carry your own child, believe me when I tell you that the TTC journey and whatever interventions might be necessary matter NOT AT ALL once you have your baby in your arms. I hope this doesn’t come off as smug, from-the-other-side advice, I just want you to know that it isn’t so bad! It’s not going to ruin motherhood for you. It might even make you appreciate it more.

    AFM, I have the most fertile fucking group of friends ever. I have a friend who is currently in total panic-mode because of an unexpected pregnancy a few months before her wedding, and I am having a hard time sympathizing right now . . . only because, where I’m sitting, it’s hard to see a baby as anything but a miracle and a blessing.

    Post # 200
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

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    @NonannaS:  Your hubby sounds sweet!  What great Valentine’s pressies!

    Post # 201
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011 - Boy #1 12/2015, boy #2 02/2018

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    @SadieBee: Happy birthday to you and your DH!!! πŸ™‚ Have a wonderful day! 

    Post # 202
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011 - Boy #1 12/2015, boy #2 02/2018

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    @Christy42213: I know all of this sounds so unfair. Even though I have not been diagnosed with PCOS, some days I think I am going through early pre-menopause. My estradiol was found to be very low last time they checked, and I’m just scared to go back and test. Somehow I feel like all it’s going to be normal because I’m taking care of myself. Sometimes I feel like my body is giving up on me for not giving it a chance to have babies, and it’s starting to shut down. I have no big reasons to believe I won’t conceive, but I’m living some frustrating times that not even DH can understand. Just give it some time. I think to myself that if I meant to have babies I will. If not, I have to resign the idea and move on. I really want to be a mother.

    Post # 203
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011 - Boy #1 12/2015, boy #2 02/2018

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    @PeachBee: After several cycles of charting, I have found that it’s very normal to even have a slow temp increase or a small temp dip before your thermal shift. Many things are normal that don’t seem to line up with the textbook ovulation information. Just give yourself a few days, and if your temps keep going down either you have not ovulated or are about to. It can take a few days to see the actual pattern.After looking at your chart, I can almost assure you that your temps are going down because you are about to ovulate. I have had those temp drops right before ovulation in previous cycles. Keep BD πŸ™‚

    Post # 204
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

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    @MrsBananas:  Thanks! I hope so too!

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    @candy11: I think you’re right and that my temp will go up in a few days. But that worries me too – because the clinic obviously is going on the assumption that I ovulated yesterday and, if I don’t ovulate until today or the next few days, then the 7dpo bw that they do next Wednesday will be off (because I won’t really be 7dpo!). Ugh, this cycle has been such a nightmare. I also just found out that my uterine lining was thin (4-5mm) so I don’t think there is any hope that I am going to get my BFP this month anyways. So disappointing to know I am likely out before I’m even officially out πŸ™ 

    Post # 205
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011 - Boy #1 12/2015, boy #2 02/2018

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    @PeachBee:  What are they (clinic) basing their assumption on to say you ovulated yesterday?

    Post # 206
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    Well…. I drank my three glasses of wine, and feel like crap today. Woke up to more brown bleeding… this is day 4. So my guess is AF id coming tomorrow. That means my LP was only 10 days long… not good.

    I thought my LP last cycle was 15 days but i was never 100 percent convinced on my exact 0 day. My LP could have been 12 days.

    I am passing the time today researching short LP. πŸ™

    Post # 207
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011 - Boy #1 12/2015, boy #2 02/2018

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    @NonannaS: If you want my opinion, I think you might have ovulated on CD16 making this LP 13 days not bad. Have you tried to increase your temp on CD19 a bit to see what happens. I never trust open circle temps. 

    Post # 208
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

    Thanks to everyone who replied.  Your kind words and support are all that is getting me through this right now.

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    @Truffle-hunter:  My husband knows.  He was the first to know.  Unfortunately, he doesn’t know how to be empathetic.  He says that we have a plan now and I need to get over it and follow the plan (the plan being seeking medical assistance).  I called my mom and told her too.  She’s a lot more empathetic but she doesn’t entirely understand since conceiving was so easy for her.  She actually aborted her first baby because she wasn’t ready, so I don’t think she can possibly understand how I feel.  Although I support a woman’s right to choose, I personally could never abort a baby, even if I knew there was something wrong with him/her.  I’ve always felt that way, even before finding out about my PCOS.  Those are the only two people I’ve told.  I really didn’t want anyone else to know.  It was hard just to post about it here.  I’m trying not to be negative, but I’ve always been a downwards spiraler.  It’s currently hard to find anything to be positive about.

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    @FreckledFox:  ATM, I’m just seeing my OB/GYN.  I’m not sure if she’s going to refer me to an RE or not yet.  Does she have to refer me?  Are REs the only ones who can prescribe Clomid?  I think my DH should have his sperm tested too just to be sure that we know the full picture of what’s going on.  He agreed that he’s willing to get tested and understands it’s important to find out.  But he also doesn’t have a PCP and can’t even remember the last time he’s seen a Doctor for anything.  So, we’re not sure how to start this process.

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    @Mrs.LemonDrop:  You’re correct that I don’t have the blood work results yet.  But I don’t see how they could possibly be good.  It is clear from charting that I’m not ovulating.  And the ultrasound tech could clearly see a ring of pearls around both of my ovaries with no dominant follicles developing in either.  So if it’s not PCOS, there’s something wrong.  Clomid seems to have good statistics on helping women conceive, but I’m also worried about the higher rate of miscarriages and multiples.  I hope this is the worst news I get and that everything is uphill from here.  This infertility stuff is hitting me really hard.  Much harder than I thought it would.  I don’t know if I can handle anything worse.

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    @octoberbaby:  I guess that’s part of why I feel so awful.  It’s like natural selection or something.  I can’t reproduce on my own, so I’ve been chosen as unfit to become a mother.  I know it’s ridiculous, but I honestly feel like taking pills to achieve a child is circumventing nature.  I feel like it’s wrong.  I keep flip-flopping on whether or not I want to do it.  I suppose you’re right that once the child is here, it doesn’t really matter how he/she came to be.  But I guess there’s still that part of me that disagrees and thinks it does matter.  I don’t know.  Do people often talk about how they conceived?  I know birth stories are talked about a lot.  I guess I just don’t want to have to tell people that I couldn’t do it naturally without intervention.  Maybe I’m just being absurd.

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    @MrsJM:  Oh no!  I’m glad no one was hurt.  I hope that you hear good news, or if you don’t, that you respond well to treatment and conceive quickly.  I actually have a really bad track record of hitting other cars when I’m upset.  πŸ™  I haven’t left the house since Monday.

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    @PeachBee:  Thanks.  I’m sorry to hear about your diagnosis and cycle problems as well.  I would probably call the clinic in a day or two if your temp doesn’t rise.  They may want to do something other than the progesterone testing if you won’t be at 7DPO like they expect.

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    @Turtle83:  I’m trying to tell myself this.  When you’re sick or get an infection, there’s nothing wrong with taking medication.  People don’t just lay down and accept death because of natural selection.  So I shouldn’t feel this way about TTC.

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    @MrsBananas:  I’m sorry to hear about your DH’s struggles.  Maintaining faith in God is always easier during good times than bad.  I know He can work miracles.  I know I have to trust Him.  But right now I’m just filled with pain.  I don’t know why God makes anyone go through this.  There doesn’t seem to be anything positive or good that comes from it.

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    @daybyday:  I definitely don’t feel like this will ruin motherhood for me.  I’m honestly just worried that this is the beginning of the end, of more bad news to come that will eventually result in my inability to ever become a mother.

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    @candy11:  I’m sorry to hear that your TTC journey is difficult too.  I hope you get your BFP soon!  We can support each other to be more positive.  It’s definitely easier to sit and cry than buck up.

    Post # 209
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

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    @NonannaS:  I tend to agree with 
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    @candy11 here.. Maybe you’ve already answered this but why is it open circle on the CD19? CD16 seems to make more sense especially if CD19 should be a higher temp.. On another note, I absolutely feel you about being discouraged and researching till you’re blue in the face but it won’t help it will only make you more anxious.. Try and take it for what it is, if you can handle more wine have some and know that after AF it’s a brand new cycle with new odds.. *big hug*

     

    Post # 210
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

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    @candy11:  I just raised it and it actually delyaed my O by two days….. I thought that the O may have been wrong, but it all lined up, temp/CM/OPK.

    Post # 211
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

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    @octoberbaby:  

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    @candy11:  No matter how I play with it, it is still saying CD19. When I put in a high temp on CD19 it actually moved my O days 2 days later.

    I am doing some research on low progesterone causing a short LP and it also causes spotting for days before a period. I usually spot for 4 to 6 days every cycle.

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