(Closed) Charters of the Hive XLVI

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  • Post # 332
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

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    @Kabatchy2be:  Lol, I think pizza and gender reveal videos are a perfectly appropriate response!

    Post # 333
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

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    @OldMrsMcDonald:  Oh wow. 🙁  That really was a kick in the teeth. I’m sorry.

    You girls are really knocking me back down to earth where I belong. I really shouldn’t be complaining. I don’t have it nearly as rough as you all.  *hugs*

    Post # 334
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

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    @OldMrsMcDonald:  I went and found it. Girl, your chart actually looks great and triphasic. It actually looks like this chart is the closest looking chart you have to your BFP chart. I’m not saying one way or the other, but my fingers are crossed for you!

     

    Post # 335
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

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    @Christy42213:  I’m so sorry.  That really sucks.  Hopefully the doctors will have more info for you moving forward, and be able to figure this out.  Sending hugs your way.

    Post # 336
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

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    @FreckledFox:  I totally understand how you feel and I’m gonig to tell you what you told me last week. It’s OKAY to feel this way, just know that your time is coming and it’ll come faster than you think. It can’t help to be on the Bee constantly baby talking! Honestly I’ve been wanting to be a mother since I’ve been 16, not that I would have been a teenage mom or anything but while all the other kids were drinking and partying, I was working and looking forward to the future. I was lucky that when I met DH he was just as excited about having kids but obviously we had a lot to go through before actually TTC. 

    We are 5 kids in my family and I’m the baby (at 27). All my siblings have kids so I’m the last one, I know my parents will be just as excited when I announce it than when my sisters did. It’s different, we all have a different/special relationship with my parents so even if you did want to give your parents their first grandchildren, it doesn’t mean they wont be just as excited when YOU are expecting. 

    Also, I guess I’m in a similar situation with my sister. We are 2 years apart and we are both TTC and have been for about the same amount of time. She has a 2 year old but last year found out she was pregnant and lost the baby at 11 weeks. It’s not that I feel that it’s a race but we speak often and for some reason we have the same cycle lol so when I spoke to her this month we both thought we were late. As much as I was excited for her when I got my period I was kind of hoping she did too. (She did). I know that if she got pregnant before me I would be so happy for her but also a little bummed because I want this so much, but as much as I want this, I know she wants it just as much. She still talks about the baby she lost with such pain. I know it must be even harder for you knowing that you aren’t even trying yet but your time is coming and when it does happen it will be so sweet. Sorry not sure if this made sense but just know that you aren’t alone and I’m sorry. You’re a good person with a good heart, you will be a great mother one day I have no doubt. 

    Post # 337
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

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    @FreckledFox:  I think the mixed feelings are totally normal….. this is an emotional thing, you know?  As PPs have said, it’s also reassuring that she didn’t seem to have trouble conceiving, so hopefully you won’t either.

     

    Post # 338
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

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    @MiJeS1104:  I just bought the cheapie wondfo ones that come with so many opks and a few pregnancy tests. They worked fine for me and I liked being able to use a lot (I had a short surge so I would have missed it).

    One thing I’ve learned from the other ladies is that some of the CB ones wont’ actually let you keep testing after a few days. I would find that really annoying because it would make is a little less obvious when you actually O’ed. I think it’s nonpkins who has those – you might want to ask her about it.

    Post # 339
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

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    @FreckledFox:  

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    @Mrs.LemonDrop:  

     

    Ok so not to sound stupid but how exactly do the Wondfos work? I get the jist that you use them and the darker they get, the closer to O you are? Is that right? But how would you determine the darkest line. Like lets say one day it’s dark but it’s possible to get darker the next day or it could get lighter which would mean I missd O? Ugh I’m confused.

    Post # 340
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I am back to being so confused. For those of you who don’t remember, I did cycle monitoring (daily ultrasound and bloodwork) with a fertility clinic this month. They confirmed ovulation between CD28 and CD29. But look at my chart – it doesn’t show ovulation at all! I have always had straightforward charts, this has never happened before. I am thinking maybe the stress of daily bw and ultrasound made my cycle weird this month but it is just so confusing to me that they have confirmed O and my chart isn’t showing it at all. I am also worried that now the clinic will obviously consider this cycle as my baseline, and my cycles are NOT usually like this. I get bloodwork done in 2 days for my 7dpo progesterone test, and I can’t imagine that it is going to be high enough given the fact that I have not had a temperature spike yet (but I usually do!) So frustrating!! Has this ever happened to anyone before??

    Post # 341
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

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    @octoberbaby:  I can’t figure out if it would be better if we were both TTC and talking about it, or just like this- not knowing and then BAM. We never really talked about AF or anything. we were never that close… Secretly I knew when she was supposed to get her period for this month, but I wasn’t going to ask her about it.. I assumed she’d gotten it. (Btw, her friend was the one who told me that she get her period in december and she was maybe ttc. Her friend is very pushy and knows WAY too much about my sister, and i don’t like it.. but its how I get all my info on my sister). Sorry if that was rambly… anyway..  I’m feeling more frustrated than sad I guess. If we were TTC, or if we lost a baby and then they conceived, then I would have a reason to be sad and grieve. This whole ting is just weird to me. My DH was saying having a baby is an emotional thing for everyone involved. I didn’t think I’d react this way. I’d played the convo between me and my sister over in my head for when she’d tell me she was pregnant.. but it didn’t play out the same way at all. She texted me that baby is the size of a blueberry. All I could do is say “yay blueberry”… I just decided to tell her that I’ve researched a ton about pregnancy and I know a lot and that I’m here with any questions she might have. Maybe helping and being a “part” of this will make it better. She showed me a pic of the + HPT, and it was just like a stab in the heart. I almost feel like we’ve been TTC for these 14 charted cycles… but getting nowhere. I gotta remind myself that a baby is a good thing. It’s all a happy thing! I was worried about my parents not caring as much about my pregnancy one day since it’s not the first, but actually they are still stunned at this one that i dunno what they’d do for me. I’m sorry about your sister’s loss. It’s so hard when its a “race” … even though it shouldn’t be. Thank you for your kind words.  You are going to be an amazing mum. Thank you for taking time out of your day to write me. I really hope that this next cycle is it for you AND your sister. It could be fun to have a preggo partner, especially if you guys have a close relationship.  🙂

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    @SaltedCaramel:  Thank you. That’s just what my DH said. It’s just emotional for everone. I don’t know exactly when they began TTC.. but i’d guess this is at least their second cycle. I was contemplating asking… but 1. Thats so personal, and 2. I dont think I want to know in case they tried 1 cycle and it takes me and my DH longer.. that’ll be one more sadness.

    Post # 342
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

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    @MiJeS1104:  OKay this is not mine, just one i googled, but usually the test line will darken as you get close to O, and then the test line will be just as dark as the control line or darker. That signifies your LH surge. After you hit the peak of your LH surge (positive OPK), ovulation should follow 12-48 afterwards. I usually O on the first day of + OPK. So I have a short surge. LH surge > Ovulation >temp rise.

    Post # 343
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

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    @PeachBee:  Have your shown the dr your other charts? Hmm… If they are claiming that you ovulated, then I guess you did and your spike was either tiny, or maybe your thermometer malfunctioned? Hmm… I wonder what your 7dpo progesterone will say. If you didn’t ovulate it’ll be low I think right? So they’ll be able to advise you what to do next. Maybe they can exclude this chart for now?

    Post # 344
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

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    @MiJeS1104:  this probably isn’t helpful, but the first month is a bit tricky. After that you pretty much “just know.” Some people will get an OPK that is way darker than the control line, mine never did. Everyone has their own normal and just like charting, you just kind of learn it. I do reccomend using them at least twice a day though until you determine whether that matters or not. 

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    @PeachBee:  Honestly babe, I wish I could help. I’m about as stumped as you are.  I don’t want to jumpt to this, but I think it’s possible that they were not correct in the confirmation. I’m interested to know what happens with the 7 dpo test. Definitely show them your chart and ask about it!

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    @FreckledFox:  You said she’s about six weeks, right? So that means that she’s right about where I am. I’m only mentioning that since you were talking about her period and info or whatever.  It does sound like you had a pretty good inkling that she was ready.  I’m glad that your DH is being sweet and understanding about it. When one of my friends from grad school got pregnant about a year ago, I confided in DH that I was happy for her but sad for me because I felt like we were in a better place and he pretty much told me I was completely ridiculous. (It was a little bit ridiculous, but it was authentic). Well, she lost the baby shortly thereafter and holy shit I felt like the worst person on earth even though I clearly had nothing to do with it. Babies just make weird emotions. 

    This is totally not the same thing, but while we’re on the topic of sisters..Remember my crazy sister I mentioned the other day? I got a totally messed up FB message from her on Thanksgiving 2012 asking me if I had had a baby because she saw the photo (It was our step neice, and my dad had told her so.. ) and how she always wanted to have the first baby, she’s been “trying for so months,” I’m too selfish to ever be a parent, etc. Thank god serious drug abuse must inhibit fertility. She also wrote some letters to my little siblings shortly before that prompted my mom to basically have the kidnapping talk with them. (If you’re ever somewhere and Sissy LemonAcid shows up, do not get in a car with her or let her take you anywhere alone). 

    While she’s blocked on my fb and my family has been explicitly instructed not to tell her where I live, what kind of car I drive, etc, I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t afraid of her finding out I’m pregnant and starting a weird psycho shitstorm about it. 

    Post # 345
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

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    @FreckledFox:  Does your sister know you’ve been charting and how much you’re excited about TTC? My sister is my best friend so I can see how this is different, we would both LOVE to be pregnant at the same time although she lives 3 hours away we would be thrilled. My sister knows my struggles and is very sensitive to my feelings so if she were to be pregnant before me I know that she would know it would be bitter sweet for me and vice versa. 

    TTC has actually gotten me closer to my other sister who has 2 little girls. We are 6 years apart but we’re getting to a place where we have a lot more in common than ever. At first it was awkward asking her questions about her journey but she’s been so sweet and supportive, maybe you could use this time to connect with her on another level? I don’t know if it’s possible.. how close you actually are. It seems like she’s excited to share this with you. 

    I think maybe knowing she was trying would have been a little easier to handle, you would have gotten used to the idea that this may happen. Either way, it’s done now. I can understand how you are more frustrated than sad because you are ready and just waiting for your DH to be but maybe having a pregnancy in the family will get your DH more excited and maybe push the date closer? lol I don’t know I always try to be optimistic!! 

    Post # 346
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

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    @FreckledFox:  

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    @Mrs.LemonDrop:  I know, it’s so frustrating. The worst part is that I found the cycle monitoring really tough – I had to go early in the morning every day before work and, since my cycle was so long, it was really exhausting. But at least I felt like it was going to get us the information we needed to help with TTC. Now I feel like it was such a waste of time, since everything has gone so wacky. I don’t know whether to lose faith in the clinic or in my charting … getting a new thermometer is probably a good place to start – I don’t have reason to think it’s broken but I will get a new one just in case, since it can’t hurt!  

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