(Closed) Charters of the Hive XXVIIII

posted 7 years ago in TTC
  • poll: non baby related- do you have pets?
    yes- dog(s) : (22 votes)
    35 %
    yes- cat(s) : (19 votes)
    30 %
    yes- exotic (let us know what you have!) : (3 votes)
    5 %
    i want pets but don't have any!! : (4 votes)
    6 %
    no : (8 votes)
    13 %
    other- please let us know what you have! : (7 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 392
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    656 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @onyx81:  Haha, depends on how delicious I make our dinner of grilled cheese and tomato soup  after yoga ๐Ÿ™‚ At least we can chart together next month too!

    Post # 393
    Hostess
    8146 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @MrsR4ever:  hahahaha i guess i ignored the second part of your comment!! after the !!!!!!!!!  ๐Ÿ™‚  hahahaha  oops… hmm.. that makes it harder!!!  4-5 now, mrs is winning… but i feel like my Darling Husband made a good point! hehe

    Post # 394
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    2177 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    @Mrs.LemonDrop:  Agreed.  Charting isn’t hard.  I think people might avoid it because it sounds way more technical and involved than it actually is, and maybe because they don’t want to involve “science” in determining their childbearing future?  I’m new to it, but it really has helped me understand my cycle and gives me info to share with my husband.

    Post # 395
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    3771 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I’ve had my share of people tell me that charting is stupid (whether it be for TTA or TTC purposes)… and that I was going to end up pregnant, and that if I don’t then I have something wrong with my body. I just don’t understand why people seem to care what the hell I’m doing. Obviously what I’m doing is working. End of story. And looking at my charts… it doesn’t look like I have anything wrong (so far).

    And for people to tell TTC’ers “just relax” is wrong. I know most of this stems from people not realizing how small of a window to get pregnant really is… and how for some people that window is really freaking small.  And they also fail to realize how knowing if and when you’re ovulating and knowing how long your lp is are BOTH really invaluable pieces of information if you do have something wrong with your cycles. I just find it really sad that people do not know why charting is so valuable. It’s good for TTC, TTA, and women in general. And as an added bonus, how nice it knowing 12-15 days in advanced when you’re going to get your period. Or even the day before you see a temp drop and think.. okay now I know AF is coming. It is SO nice being prepared… I used to have AF accidents.. now, I’m always prepared!

    Anyways sorry for that rant. I’m just tired of people asking, why aren’t you pregnant yet? Why aren’t you on the pill? Oh you’re using NFP? That’s a bunch of mumbo jumbo crap, you’ll be pregnant by tomorrow.

    Post # 396
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    421 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    @Mrs.LemonDrop:  Interesting question, and I’ve seen it come up in other contexts, too. I’m a nerd and at times a control freak, so temping really appeals to me. And I find it incredibly easy to do.

    There is also a bit of a misconception that temping is for getting pregnant, but it really only confirms things after the fact. So it’s more of a monitoring tool. It can only help you become pregnant (or avoid it) if you do it for some time and your body is always extremely regular and predictable, which I think is not the case for most people.

    Temping was a no-brainer for me because I was totally out of touch with my natural cycles after 12.5 years on BCP, and being in my mid-30s I couldn’t even predict what my body was doing or even whether it would do what it was supposed to. Combine that with *very* infrequent sex under normal circumstances (sadly), and without charting and OPKs I would have zero chance of knowing if it was a problem with me or if we were just missing the window every time.

    To me charting is entirely natural. In my mind, it’s only when you start introducing medical procedures or synthetic chemicals into your system that it becomes a form of intervention.

    Post # 397
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    2440 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    @Mrs.LemonDrop:  Haha, not a control freak, just an information freak ๐Ÿ™‚  My job is all about data too-I do alot of assessment and progress monitoring.  So it makes sense to me to chart because why wouldn’t I want the info. That armband sounds so cool, may have to look into that.

    Post # 398
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    3771 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @PlusOne:  There is also a bit of a misconception that temping is for getting pregnant, but it really only confirms things after the fact. 

    exactly. in my reading supplies it says this… 

    The most important sign to follow prior to ovulation is your charted CM.

    The most important sign to follow after ovulation is your charted temps.

    Post # 399
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    1492 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    I think those that say charting is for the crazies either don’t understand it or haven’t had to struggle with ttc. I am so anal I couldn’t stand to not know exactly what is going on when. MY SIL actually made a comment like this recently and it was all I could do to not beat “mrs I look at my husband and am pregnant with kids I can’t afford”. UGH.

    Post # 400
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    1963 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    Hah it’s not the charting that’s time consuming, its spending so much time on here talking about charting that takes up so much of my time! I am really glad I decided to do it. It gives me a sens of understanding about what’s happening, and based on what’s been happening with my charts, I think I would have been setting myself up for a really terrible year of heart ache if I just figured I would “relax and have sex every other day.” I would have no idea what was going on, but from charting I can see that this month I shouldn’t reasonably expect that I am KU. It still sucks that I’m not KU, but at least it isn’t a surprise ๐Ÿ˜›

    I think I’ve decided to chart one more month to make sure that my crappy charts are becoming a pattern, and if they are I will go to the walk in and ask for a referral to an OBGYN so I don’t have to wait til July to find out if my progestrone is low. Just hoping I don’t get a similar response from the doc that some of you guys are talking about right now in regards to charting!

    Post # 401
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    3771 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I have a friend that is going crazy with stress over her crazy cycles she’s been having coming off the pill. It’s been like a year and I can’t even tell you how much money she has flushed down the toilet in pregnancy tests. The whole situation is odd b/c they’re going unprotected and her hubby is still in college and she want’s a baby, he doesn’t. But anyways I told her she could relieve the stress just by temping. That way she would at least know if she is ovulating or if her stress is delaying her ovulation. She just looked at me like I was crazy and said she was just going to go to the doc and have him/her tell her what is going on. I told her she didn’t even have to do that… she could probably just chart one cycle and figure out what’s going on. She hasn’t gotten anything from her doc other than her body is still adjusting to coming off the pill. 

    ^^^ that to me is crazy. Why would you NOT want to know what’s going on? Especially if you think something is wrong???

    Post # 402
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    421 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    @Utopia4us:  +1 to “it’s not the charting that’s time consuming, its spending so much time on here talking about charting that takes up so much of my time!”

     

    I also meant to mention in my post that I gave up on CP early on even though I have no qualms about checking. It was so variable it gave me almost no useful information.  As for CM, I only monitored what was there in abundance (i.e. on TP or in undies). I was lucky that my EWCM didn’t mess around– there was no mistaking it when it was there. And that was all I was really interested in. I do find CM and CP a little bit more of a mystery or annoying to monitor fully vs. just temping and using OPKs.

    Post # 403
    Hostess
    8146 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @Woodstock:  @Mrs.LemonDrop:  NFP scared the crap out of me. The woman who explained it to us had 4 kids. I immediate rolled my eyes like, “that doesnt work obviously”.  I told people to relax, and i also thought that if i got to close to that “area” with my “area” we’d be KU. I was one of the million idiots who google, “can you get PG from a hotub?”

    THIS was before charting, and reading. People aren’t insensitive, they dont have the facts that we do now, are just ignorant to how it all really works. (if they do have the facts and still say relax, then F them). I was in the highschool frame of mind that we all complain about until October last year!  Its crazy to think about now, but its kinda something we all believe at one point until something opens our eyes. You ladies opened my eyes!! i was BAFFLED about how unprotected BD does not  = baby. it blew my mind!  But now, i get it and i understand   ๐Ÿ™‚  Charting has helped me feel so empowered!

     

    Post # 404
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    421 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    @FreckledFox:  Well, you could be FreckleFox with the Mrs to indicate that you are married generally. It doesn’t have to mean that you are married to a Mr. FreckleFox!

    Post # 405
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    1492 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    BLARRRGG! <~~ That is how I feel today. I hate the last few days before your can reasonably start testing during the TTW. HRMP! Totally trying to not symptom spot this month. The only thing I can’t ignore is that my breasts started hurting at 4dpo which is ridiculously early for me. I know deep down it would be too early for it to be because of a pregnancy but each day they have started hurting more. Honestly this is the first month I’ve just been like, eh no not likely. Guess all the BFNs have finally taken its toll.

    I have toyed with my chart to see if it looks more like CD14 or CD15. The pattern of my previous temps actually line up better with CD14 like FF says. So maybe I O’d late that day. I dunno. UGH! UGH UGH!!!! Ok.

    Post # 406
    Hostess
    8146 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @PlusOne:  this is true, thus making my decison even more ridiculous. this is me in my true form. i am a HORRIBLE decision maker…. Paint colors? Diner menus? forget about it!

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