(Closed) Charters of the Hive XXVIIII

posted 7 years ago in TTC
  • poll: non baby related- do you have pets?
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    i want pets but don't have any!! : (4 votes)
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  • Post # 407
    Hostess
    8146 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @lovemygsp:  are you waiting til AF? or testing at another DPO?  symptom spotting wouldnt exist if it was never true at some point 😉

    Post # 408
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    1492 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    @FreckledFox:  I’m 7 or 8dpo right now. I won’t let myself test until at least tomorrow. Its earlier than I vowed after last cycle and I swore I wouldn’t but DHs whole clan is coming this weekend and I’d rather know early if possible and not find out while they are here as I’d like to tell Darling Husband privately and make it special.

    Post # 409
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    969 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @Mrs.LemonDrop:  @Woodstock:  @FreckledFox:  As a TTA-er, charting and NFP scared the crap out of me too!  My Darling Husband is catholic and we had a catholic wedding which of course involved marriage prep and I remember sitting there during the NFP seminar absolutely horrified. There was no WAY I was trusting it.  My husband was all for it, however, mostly because I think he was tired of condoms (since I’m also anti-hormonal birth control) and because he didn’t have to do it, lol.  I promised I would at least look into it, read TCOYF, gave it a whirl and now I realize just how easy it is!  Plus I love how it’s giving me months of information before we even start TTC.  I’ve definitely done a complete 180!

    Post # 411
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    2201 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @mkat37:  I went to a private catholic high school and they taught us NFP in school, at the time i thought it was a bunch of …. Well bananas. But now that we were TTC I loved it!! Ad won’t be going back on hormonal BC after LO arrives. 

    Post # 413
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    3028 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @Mrs.LemonDrop:  Yup, plus at the time I thought I still had my pre-cancerous lesions, in which if they increased/stayed the same for another 4 months (they had for almost 2 years) I would have had something like 95% chance of getting Cervical Cancer, something I was scared would ruin my changes of concieving easily.   The docs I have gone to at PP have been much better than what the various insurances have covered trhough the years.  I went for all my cancer screening paps at PP, insertion and removal of IUD and Implanon-eventhough I had insurance just to have better care and suppport a good organization.

    @onyx81:  I think a lot of “just relax” is about how our parents and grandparens…had 3-12 children without “really trying.”  The whole “you can have have kids, because I had you.” syndrome.  Let’s not forget women worked less and they often had sex how and when they didn’t want to.

    @FreckledFox:  I think the other thing that complicates it for my work “friends” (whom know we want kids, but not that we are TTC’ing now.  I mentioned reading a book about “biology” and they assume since we are getting married) is that many of the inmates/clients have numerous kids so it’s like “well if everyonewetalktoatwork can get pregnant, you lead a much healthier lifestyle, so you certainly will.”  If I didn’t use birth control and had unprotected sex every time I had sex, often involving an exchange of goods money/drugs then I too would do have 9 kids by 30!

    @Woodstock: Good point, the other rant I wanted to add is then if you mention something is off medically or that you have been “just relaxing” for 6 months with no BFP and then they tell you some horrible story of their friend/sisters/aunts/cousins/bestfriends/nextdoorneigbor who “couldn’t” get pregnant and after X years spend $X on fertility treatment or “gave up” and the story ends w/ either “now they have a beautiful baby boy and $20k in debt or “they were never able to have children, but spoil their nieces/cousins/cats wearing sweaters with gifts”  I am not saying those stories are not true, but it’s not what you want/need to hear.  

    @PlusOne:  Ditto, I charted one month NTNP because I had been on the BC for so long I didn’t know if I ovulated at all?  I had no connection to my body and had no idea what it did other than bleed every 28 days so I wasn’t pregnant.  The first month when I KNEW (science!) I O’d was excited that my body was working and that I hadn’t messed it up.

    Clearly I am feeling fiesty today, it’s a beautiful sunny (rare) warm 71 degrees (will be 82) and I am heading to the park w/ the pup in a bit.  Off to find a Starbucks drive-thru for my celebratory 1st Frappucino of the summer!  Have a great day ladies!

     

    Post # 414
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    3771 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @mkat37: @FreckledFox: I was never really terrified about charting. I guess it’s because I have a super supportive family that has actually talked about charting/NFP/FAM with me. I have an aunt that has 5 kids that uses it… Everyone does that eye roll and says, see she has 5 kids, obviously it doesn’t work. If they would just talk to her, they would know that they WANTED 5 kids. Plus they had 3 boys in a row and really wanted a girl, lol. Its also hard for any outsider to take this seriously when pretty much all of society STILL thinks that NFP/FAM is the rhythm method. Well DUH that doesn’t work. I’ve actually had a doc say to me after stating that I was using nfp to avoid, “you do realise the rhythm method doesn’t work”. I had to then explain to him that I wasn’t using the rhythm method. 

     

    Post # 415
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    3028 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @calibee79:  A good response would have also been, “It appears getting pregnant is really easy, so I will just buy yours.” A-holes.  I think people think an opinion in needed on the ways I live my life.  I already know getting unwarranted parental/birth advice when I am KU isn’t going to go over well. The whole you are carrying too high, too low, too big, gain more weight, are you taking meds? is going to make my head explode w/ rage.  

    Post # 417
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    3028 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @calibee79:I thought I knew the basics of my body; you O at day 14 and can only get KU around that time frame.  If I used that I would have zero chance since last month O at CD24 and this cycle CD29.   If she doesn’t have a child soon, just call it Darwanism!

    Post # 418
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    3771 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I just realized… I am starting my 6 cycle charting today… AND it just happens to be the beginning of the 7th month I’ve been charting too! lol so wierd. 

    Post # 420
    Hostess
    8146 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @mkat37:  omg PreCana was intense!!!  we had to do it too. There was a young girl and her surfer dude husband and their 4 kids running around while shes telling us all about how to use it for TTA, and TTC, and it was so awkward, but i was really intrigued!!! i started reading and ended up on FF then here  🙂

    @MrsHoneyC:  i will never do HBC again. condoms if its around FW, but i hated the pill. Loved the cramp relief, hated everything else! i fell like once we’re at a point with 1 kid (hopefully), it’ll also be a bit more laid back.. but til then TTA! TTA!  hehe

    @aliciapdx:  i also had no idea what my body was doing aside from bleeding. the first time i read in like, Cosmo magazine  that if you had slippery CM, it means ovulation is coming. i was SO EXCITED about seeing that, that i told my Fiance. I am OVULATING! i have the ABILITY TO OVULATE! Hhaha he was kinda weirded out. But it was always a weird thing to me not to know ANYTHING. (plus slippery CM doesnt even mean your DO O).. to make confusion worse, i had assumed i have 28 day cycles and every month i was 1-2 weeks late. turns out i’m averaging 38-40 day cycles. wee.. it saves me some $ in HPTs and tons of freakouts (and DHs freakouts)  now  😉

    @Woodstock:  NFP works best with temping or charting, (unless your cycles are regular and you can read your CM well) but i think that it is totally a method of BC! whereas i didnt think that before! and ater talking with the girl who held our PreCana session about her 4 kids, she chose 4, and it works for them! (and many others!) my mother was “BCP, or condoms.. then married, then nothing or kids”… kinda mindset. no one in my family talks about it. we’re not super private, but enough that i didnt even get “the talk” haha

     

    Post # 421
    Hostess
    8146 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @aliciapdx:  +1, i’d ALWAYS be 10+ days out of my window. (if we always planned)

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