(Closed) Charters of the Hive XXVIIII

posted 7 years ago in TTC
  • poll: non baby related- do you have pets?
    yes- dog(s) : (22 votes)
    35 %
    yes- cat(s) : (19 votes)
    30 %
    yes- exotic (let us know what you have!) : (3 votes)
    5 %
    i want pets but don't have any!! : (4 votes)
    6 %
    no : (8 votes)
    13 %
    other- please let us know what you have! : (7 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 422
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    3028 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @FreckledFox:  Yup, I also thought that creamy CM was a yeast infection, like legit thought I had a chronic yeast infection for years and avoided sex and used creams that always got rid of it in a few days…SMH

    Post # 423
    Hostess
    8146 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @aliciapdx:  i told my mom once when i was like 13 that i had white CM and she called my Dr. they were like, “you’re becoming a woman soon”  … AAAHHHH awkward.  (i didnt get my first period until i was 15)

    Post # 424
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    3771 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @FreckledFox:  I didn’t get my first period until I was a senior in HS! I guess that’s what happens when you swim 6 days a week! lol. I didn’t get ‘regular’ until junior year of college! 

    Post # 425
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    656 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @lovemygsp:  You have the most amazing self control! Send some of it my way!

    Post # 426
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    3771 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @aliciapdx:  omg me too. I thought, God I can’t be normal with all the stuff I see! But I was never itcy (sorry if that’s tmi) So I thought I was broken!

    Post # 427
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    656 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @FreckledFox:  omg your comment to @aliciapdx was totally my reaction when I got my first EWCM this first cycle off bcp! I ran to pee before a dinner for work and was like, wtf… OMG OMG I’m normal and fertile!! Practically skipped to dinner – lol

    Post # 428
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    3028 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @Woodstock:  Yup, the cream made me itchy actualy and I started buying some all natural at suff I would use like monthly on/off for years

    Post # 430
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    2853 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @Mrs.LemonDrop:  I’m of the opinion that those of us who chart/charted are the kind of people who are used to working hard to get sh!t done. Things haven’t just been easy for us, things haven’t been handed to us. Also, generally, we’re smarter and feel knowledge is power. Don’t take it personally (I’ve had good friends tell me charting “doesn’t work”), it just means they don’t really know anything about it and their opinion is formed on an ignorance of what it is and how it works. It’s a means to an end and it takes a minute a day to keep up with. How much more time do you think THEY are spending on having to count back every day to find out what cycle day they’re on, or how much time they are investing in thinking about when they should take a test?

    Post # 431
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    2853 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @calibee79:  pour vous 😉

    The “relax” advice is generally given by those who have no idea how it feels to try and fail, try and fail, try and fail. My own mother (her first cycles off BC resulted in myself and my brother) has said it to me. It’s not that they’re purposely being rude or obtuse, it’s just that they have NO IDEA. It’s a catchall thing they say because they don’t know what else there IS to say. I’ve also been told to “just enjoy the process”, and “have a lot of sex”. *blank stare* The reason we take it so personally is that basically it translates to: you are not relaxed, relaxed = pregnancy, you are not relaxed and are not pregnant, it’s YOUR fault you’re not pregnant.

    I can tell you all with absolute honesty – there was NOTHING relaxed about me this last cycle. I was seriously starting to lose steam and hope. I was desperate and panicky and anxious. Frankie says relax? I say F#CK FRANKIE!

    Post # 433
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    2853 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @calibee79:  Believe me – I totally know. The best is when people pull out the random “factoid” of them knowing someone who knows someone who tried for YEARS, and it finally happened for them and they got pregnant when they stopped trying/relaxed. So, if they can do it, you should be able to as well! Little do they know that for every woman that happens to there are 300 other women who didn’t get so lucky. And there are hundreds more who needed medical intervention to conceive. You don’t have to be thinking about that though, and I hope you never will. But…just TRY to remember when those you’re close to say it, that they mean no harm – they THINK they’re helping. If a total stranger or casual acquaintance says it though, feel free to go apoplectic on their @sses 😉

    Post # 435
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    1963 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    @calibee79:  OMG +1 to punching the next person who tells me to relax in the face. Ugh.

    Post # 436
    Member
    3028 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @Utopia4us:  Hah it’s not the charting that’s time consuming, its spending so much time on here talking about charting that takes up so much of my time!

    HA, exactly!

    @Woodstock:  I think part of that mindset is trusting a medical profession over yourself and your body.  Ya’ll know I work w/ mentally ill women in a prison.  So many of them have been on mental health med and even put in psych wards because a MD who meet them once thought they were “crazy” and “dangerous” and needed a lot of meds, mostly downers.  I am not saying people don’t have MH issues and some don’t need medication, but if the docs asked just a few questions or these women felt confident enough to say “no” or explain what they were feeling/thinking or they weren’t scared of “the man” standing over them who is the expert on this they would have found out many of these women needed quit drugs/less/no meds/more therapy/grief counseling/a damn hug and a mom.

    @lovemygsp:  I am w/ you hanging out and trying not to symptom spot at 9dpo(ish) I will admitt I did use an OPK this AM w/ a BFN.  

    @MrsPuddingface:  I love this.  My best friend (who wrote that really nice e-mail) used the excersise anology, she watches what she eats,  counts calories and works out daily w/ the goal of being 150lbs.  It is an every day decision and choice she makes to obtain a goal, just like charting.  She was really fascinated that I knew when I (thought) I ovulated esp. since her sister has 4 daughters through the NTNP method and is 2 yrs older than I.  She’s celibate/single but is totally interested in starting to chart just to use FAM when she is in a stable LT relationship.

    I thought of another thing I wouldn’t have known if I didn’t chart/and chat ((singing Celine Dion’s- It’s all coming back to me now)) pre-seed.  I had no clue that lubrication/saliva was not “fertility friendly” (which sounds like a personal ad section on craigslist for sperm donation…anywho.) I would have thought somthing was wrong since I would be killing his swimmers w/o even knowing it.

     

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