Post # 1
Our entire wedding is costing just over $2000. $900 was for food (Noodles and Company), and the rest covered the dress, suit, decorations, venue rentals, cake (cupcakes), etc etc etc.
The thing is we made sacrifices… none of which are that important to us but now I’m worried our GUESTS might resent some of the cuts we made. No alcohol, few decorations, no band, no fancy place settings or cute little party favors.
I know the day isn’t about the ‘free stuff’, but I’m still concerned that we didn’t spend more on the guests. It’s too close to the day to really change any of the decorations. We have close to 300 coming so we can’t afford nice gifts; I know all the cheap favors (while a nice gesture) end up being thrown away a few days after the event.
Am I being overly worried about this? Is the low-budget/frugal wedding acceptable? Or do you have any suggestions to keep my loved ones from calling us “cheap”?
(As a disclaimer, it’s not like we were stingy on the wedding and then splurged on ourselves — my dress was only $199, all accessories only $20, even my beautiful e-ring was only $800).
Post # 3
Did your guests have a comfortable place to put their butts? Did they have food and water? If so, then I think you’re ok.
Did you have a 5 hour gap in the middle of the day in 100 degree weather with no bathrooms and no entertainment for your guests while you were off getting photos? If so, then you might catch some flack for it.
Post # 4
@DaneLady: We’re doing most of the pictures beforehand, so they’ll go straight to the reception hall after the ceremony. The ceremony IS outside though (and, of course, Colorado is experiencing near record highs), so the heat could suck. But it’ll be a short, sweet ceremony!
Post # 5
Hi, fellow Coloradan! I enjoy Noodles & Co. and I think it’s cool you’re serving their food.
Anyway, have the wedding you can afford. Include only what’s important to you. If that means cutting out certain things, then that’s what you do.
Guests aren’t going to be annoyed by the lack of “alcohol, decorations, band, fancy place settings or cute little party favors.” For them, it’s about comfort, convenience, their love for you, and how MEANINGFUL it is for you as a couple to bring them into your world for the day. Whenever I’ve been a guest, the only thing that would ever bother me was if the couple missed personally acknowledging me at the wedding. I don’t mind even if it was just, “Hi, thanks for coming!”
If you’re having fun, they will too. I have found that it’s almost always the bride who sets the mood, not the trinkets or the booze.
Post # 6
Sure! I think it’s fine, as long as you aren’t requesting everyone show up in tuxes and gowns. If you are enjoying yourself everyone else will. And don’t call attention to how expensive / inexpensive everything is while your guests are there.
Post # 7
I think it’s way more important to have everyone you love there over having a “fancy” wedding with a band and booze! I think your wedding sounds awesome!
Post # 8
@Benni: maybe do an favor ppl can eat like a homebaked cookie in a lil bag with a sweet lil love qoute on it ….
also i find ribbon wands nice touch and nto to much buy some ribbon and make those they be fu nand do great photo opts add a lil persoan l touch to the wedding and shouldnt coast too much to do just a few ideas
Post # 9
Wow! I am in awe that your food is $3/head… In Australia that would simply be impossible. Also I am so curious (excuse me) but how on earth did you manage to hire a hall and pay a celebrant/minister, buy cakes and drinks and pay for decorations for $900?
Post # 10
I took a quick look through the menu and I wish I could go to your wedding.
Good, filling food and a comfortable seat is really all most people want; other than to congratulate you!
Post # 11
people will be fine… I can’t tell you where most of the wedding favors I got are at.. the only one I still have is my sisters and that is because it was a bottle stopper which I need, drink lots of wine… LOL
don’t worry about it, I say congrats that you stuck to your budget, at the end of the day if people would critisize then they shouldnt be invited….
Post # 12
I think that $900 in the U.S goes a long way compared to here in Aus.
And ugh, even my wedding where all we had was sandwiches and quiches and salad (friends and family made all of the cakes and sweets) it cost us $1000 for only 50 people.
Post # 13
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
If your friends and family drink, can you warn them it’ll be a dry wedding? I’d be annoyed if I didn’t know ahead of time, because to me, weddings are a big celebration and that goes hand in hand with a couple drinks. However, you know your guests.
Besides that, i’m sure it will will be lovely! The wedding is what makes the wedding.
Post # 14
Hardly anyone in my family drinks (my parents had a dry wedding), most of my friends do but not to excess (and not in the sense that they have to drink to have a good time). We’ll probably do mimosas to morning of and maybe an after party (if we’re not too tired) — but that’ll just be at a pub so everyone will buy their own.
@sarahuccs: I like that — “it’s almost always the bride who sets the mood, not the trinkets or the booze”. Thanks!
@Andyboots: I have a FANTASTIC church family that graciously provided a lot. My pastor’s doing the ceremony (free), we’re using the church for the reception (cost of utilities), cake was an old college friend who owns her own bakery and wants to build up her portfolio (cost of ingredients), wedding venue was amazingly only $120 to rent, no alcohol (just iced tea and water — waaaay cheaper), decorations were mostly DIY from Hobby Lobby (and not that elaborate; plus the wedding venue is so naturally beautiful we’re hardly doing anything by way of decorating there).
Also, FYI, Noodles & Co. has some fantastic options when you work with a general manager for large quantities. And then all the sides (breads and salads) were generously donated by my mother’s friends.
So the ‘frugal’ wedding was really only partially because I’m good at keeping costs down — a LOT of it has to do with my generous friends and good connections =)
Post # 15
If you are having a Noodles and Co wedding, I may have to crash it as long as you’re having mac and cheese. YUMMMMMMY.
Post # 16
I am actually impressed you are feeding 300 people for $900. I hope you have enough food!
Alcohol is not a requirement at a wedding. Neither are favors.
To host your guests properly, you need to make sure they have a comfortable place to sit down, something to eat (a meal if it is a mealtime, cake/punch if it’s not) and drink (non-alcoholic beverages are fine) and that’s basically it. The rest is fluff.
I’ll echo the PP who said they would want to know it was a dry wedding – but it’s not required that you tell people.