(Closed) Cheated on With a Prostitute Update/ Next Steps With Interesting Friend

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Would You
    Wait for him to show deep interest and ask if I am single : (2 votes)
    2 %
    Tell him I am single and interested : (44 votes)
    46 %
    Plan C? Do Tell : (3 votes)
    3 %
    He seems un-interested. A man who likes you will ALWAYS seek you out : (1 votes)
    1 %
    Your Situation is complicated. He might be interested... : (23 votes)
    24 %
    He definately seems interested in you : (22 votes)
    23 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    3625 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I think that since you are both adults, honesty is the best policy and if you are really interested in him, you should just tell him so. I have had a lot of male friends and some are very good friends of mine but they do not call me by terms of endearment and they do not constantly touch me and my hair.

    I mean, if he doesn’t reciprocate, then it’ll hurt and it’ll suck since you are interested but I prefer the certainty of knowing “Yes, there’s something there” or “No, back off” rather than pondering in limbo and debating his every move.

    Post # 5
    Member
    2497 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @oldrockingchair:  Just be honest. Tell him that you and your Fiance have split but are still dating.

    Personally, I think it’s unfair to start something with someone if you’re still seeing your Fiance. If you’re ready to move on from your Fiance, then you can be forthcoming with your feelings about this new guy. If you still want things to work with your Fiance, then focus on repairing that relationship.

     

    Post # 6
    Member
    3170 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Just be honest with the guy. He doesn’t have to make the first move. Why don’t you ask him to lunch or for coffee sometime and let him know how you feeL about him. 

    Post # 7
    Member
    3429 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Oh gosh, I read some of your threads, you deserve to be happy..Will you ever be happy with your FI? if not, end it with him before you start something with the new guy.  

    Post # 8
    Member
    1177 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Pass him a note at lunch period. 🙂 

    Srsly, just ask him to coffee or a movie or something. If he’s interested, he’ll take the opening. If he doesn’t, he isn’t.

    Post # 9
    Member
    67 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I went through this for 7 years, crushing on a guy while having this on again off again thing with some s*** guy. I finally called it off once and for all and turned things up a little with the other guy. Guess what, he did like me and here we are getting married next month :). I feel you though, I had it bad and felt like a little high school girl around him. Tell him you like him and ditch your loser once and for all! 

    Post # 10
    Member
    6745 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @geekspice:  +1

    Ask him out – when you’re out, tell him you’re single.  let him take it from there.  In the meantime, seriously consider dropping the guy who lied to you and got HJs from some random for money.  Ew. 

    Post # 11
    Member
    3420 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    You’ve already checked out of your relationship with your (ex) Fiance. Just casually drop the fack that your single.

    Post # 12
    Member
    1719 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I agree with other PPs about asking him out.   I’d ask him out to lunch/coffee to gauge he feels about you and casually bring up how you’re single again. 

    Good luck!

     

    Post # 13
    Member
    482 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @oldrockingchair:  It’s very obvious he is interested in you. I would lay it all out there! But I do things like that, with no fear of rejection. Because that’s really the worst that can happen.

    Post # 15
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    13099 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    @somethingaquamarine:  “Just be honest. Tell him that you and your Fiance have split but are still dating.

     

    Personally, I think it’s unfair to start something with someone if you’re still seeing your Fiance. If you’re ready to move on from your Fiance, then you can be forthcoming with your feelings about this new guy. If you still want things to work with your Fiance, then focus on repairing that relationship.”

     

    I agree.  OP – You should be honest with this new guy but I also wouldn’t pursue anything with him without truely ending things with your ex-FI.

    Post # 16
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    4325 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I agree with those who say you need to end things once and for all with ex-FI before moving on with anyone else. After all, if you interested in someone else, it isn’t fair to him or your ex-FI to keep dating, especially as it’s a signal that you don’t expect to stay with ex-FI (a decision I fully support!).

    I think he likes you, but I don’t know what he is like around women in general. Either way, I would bring up your single status casually, maybe like “Well, since ex-FI and I aren’t together anymore, I…” so he knows you’re available. Let that sink in, then feel free to make the first move – Guys will NOT always make a move.  Believe me, I’m married to a man who had a crazy crush on me and never would’ve said a word!

     

     

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