Cheating Fiance

posted 1 month ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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2 posts
Wannabee

Call off the wedding. 

Post # 3
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1341 posts
Bumble bee

You say that you “can’t” call off the wedding, but you actually can. It’s not impossible, it’s just not something you want to have to do and will be difficult. But you can and should do it, no matter how much money is at stake. 

Post # 4
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276 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

You absolutely can and should call off the wedding. Not that the opinions of your friends and family really matter in this case, but surely they wouldn’t rather see you marry that dirtbag than “waste” their money by calling it off? No sane person would want that for you. The relationship is doomed one way or another, so get out now before you have to deal with the legal and financial headache of a divorce. Your wedding guests will either be supportive or they can get over it. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

You absolutely can all off the wedding. Nobody is going to blame you for calling off the wedding when you found out he was a cheating asshole. Going through with it is a mistake and you know it.

Post # 6
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709 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

I’m sorry you’re going through this, bee. How did you find out? Have you confronted him? What did he say?

Post # 7
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119 posts
Blushing bee

I agree! You know what you need to do, bee. Your family will understand and your wallet will recover with time.

Post # 8
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690 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Backyard

Calling it off now is better than going through with it and divorcing shortly thereafter – you’ll feel much worse that way. It might not feel like you have a choice but you do. No amount of money is worth knowingly marrying someone who would disrespect you and your relationship this way.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

alisonwedger :  

Anyone who loves and cares about you enough to travel so far to attend your wedding wants to see you happy.

Marrying your fiancé guarantees that you will be miserable.  Is that what the people who love you want for you? Would they put money ahead of your well being? Your future? Your children?  Cheaters make terrible role models.

You think calling off a wedding costs a lot?  Try divorce.  Canceling a wedding is hell, but, only in the short term.  The agony that is divorce can drag on for years and leave a lot of casualties and collateral damage in its wake.

Ask any of our divorced Bees.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

Calling off the wedding is cheaper and less stressful than a divorce. Do not marry this dirtbag!

Post # 11
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126 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Unless you want to have a cheating HUSBAND instead of just a cheating fiance, call off the wedding no matter the cost.  I promise losing some money by canceling the wedding will not compare at all to what you’ll lose by marrying a known cheater.

Post # 12
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46 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

Call off the wedding asap if he’s doing this now, how will it be when life gets tough, boring, or there are problems. He will never be more trustworthy than he is right now unless he decides to change. Run. Don’t waste years, please!!

Post # 13
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786 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

call it off or be the wife of a cheater

Post # 14
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661 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

Oh bee I am so sorry you are going through this. Of course you can call off the wedding. You just have to muster up the strength to do it. It will not be easy. But getting married to a man that you know is a cheater is far more difficult. Call him out on it. Let your guests know why you are canceling the wedding. By you marrying him he is getting his cake and ice cream and eating it too. Don’t let him do that to you and get away with this. Don’t think about other people right now, this isn’t the time. You need to think about you. Get pissed!!! Get mad!!! Get angry!!! How dare him. Exploit that bastard and tell your family, your friends, and his family. I bet they would be shocked if you still married that man. 

Post # 15
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762 posts
Busy bee

You NEED to call off the wedding. This isn’t a choice you planned or wanted to make, so anyone who cares about you will understand. No one would expect you to go through with a wedding under these circumstances. This is HIS fault and if anyone needs to be embarrassed, ashamed, and guilty, it’s him. 

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