Post # 61
Have you looked to see if he has Tinder account? A friend of mine had a similar experience with her husband of 16 years and father of her kids- very involved in church, girl scouts, boy scouts kid sports ect. Turned out he was a sociopath- had a secret second life with hook ups, sex addiction, multiple girl friends ect. Had been going on for years. She also had a job that gave him a lot of free time. Very convenient. He was very active on Tinder.
I do not buy the joke thing at all.
Post # 62
j9marie : Okay, lady, but I’m trying trying to prove anything.
I’m just saying. Don’t blame someone for something unless you know 100% that he was trying to cheat. He could’ve been just doing something stupid that he thought was funny at the time.
Was it offensive? Yes, but like I said, men do dumb things. He may have thought it was okay since he wasn’t trying to actually sleep with her or something.
Post # 63
andy05 : Check his internet… a lot of phones have settings now where you can do
“private” browsers, apps (like rename them), etc.
Post # 64
Just because he didn’t physically cheat on you doesn’t mean that he didn’t have the intention of cheating on you. Do you honestly believe that if you hadn’t found that email and caught him that he wouldn’t have followed through with meeting up and sleeping with this other woman?
Post # 65
<u>andy05 :</u> Andy, he told his friend to call you and say that.It was a craigslist ad for crying out loud. Far from a joke. He is an asshole and you need to leave. He is untrustworthy and full of shit.
Post # 66
Is not just what he did with the Craigslist meet up & pic sending. It’s how he lied about it, coerced friends to lie about it, and texted you an awful kind of threatening text. It’s creepy & abusive, underscoring his distain for you.
Post # 67
It’s okay to leave someone without “proof” that they cheated. He has revealed his character; he is untrustworthy.
This is a fact.
It’s a betrayal on numerous levels and that’s reason enough.
Post # 68
His emailing people on Craigslist for kink and sex is a reflection on you HOW exactly? I’d be out, for sure.
Post # 69
Update: I really wanted to believe him and forgive this mistake, but I became sad to the point of depression…
Last week I decided to divorce him.
I am trying to figure out the logistics of my return home, I am hurt like I’ve never been before, but I cannot live like this.
Post # 70
andy05 : It will be hard for a while but there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Focus on that light. I’ve always said I’d rather be happy alone than miserable with someone else. If your marriage cannot be saved it’s time to save yourself. You will be okay. Hugs.
Post # 71
andy05 : you are one strong lady. Showing you are worth more than this.
Post # 72
- Wedding: July 2018 - Fremont, CA
Sending you good vibes. I’m sorry he made you go through this. ((((((Hugs)))))
Post # 73
andy05 : Do NOT believe his friends! A similar thing happened to me. My live-in boyfriend was a big fat cheater, and not only did he lie about it, some of his friends lied about it to me. He had packages and packages of condoms in his car, and strange women even started calling him at home, so I don’t know who they thought they were going to fool. They thought I was stupid.
He finally got physically abusive and then we split up, but don’t let it get to that point. He’s already being mentally abusive by trying to emotionally blackmail you, and that’s a short step to physical abuse. I just saw that you are going to divorce him; that’s good. It’s the best, most constructive thing for you to do. I know it hurts, such a huge disappointment, but at least you found out early in your marriage. My husband’s father was constantly unfaithful to Mom, and she didn’t find out about it until after they had several kids.
Post # 74
Good for you girl.
I had an ex like your husband and the mind fuckery almost made me have a mental breakdown. Google sociopath cheating exes and you won’t feel so alone.
I got out of that relationship and am now married to a wonderful sweetheart. You deserve better but you won’t get better if you stay with this cheating prick.
Post # 75
- Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull
andy05 : Bee I’ve just caught up on this thread. I think you’re doing the right thing.
Where abouts in Europe are you returning to? I’m in the UK if you ever want to drop me a message <3
Also, remember that his behaviour is in no way a reflection upon you. What a stupid thing for him to say!