- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
This thread got me thinking; but I didn’t want to thread-jack so…
***Please let me first put a disclaimer that at in no part is this meant to be a slight anyone who has gotten divorced, or feels differently in any way***
If your husband cheated on you, would you get a divorce? Are there circumstances that would change your answer?
I ask because for me, marriage is for life. I don’t believe in divorce. Pure and simple, I’ve said my vows, and I meant them. There are only a few circumstances where I would leave my husband– such as violence/abuse of me and/or our children, life in prison, or if commited a serious violent and/or sexual crime such as rape, kidnapping, or torture–I’m not talking about a bar fight here, so please no “what if’s” short of very extreme circumstances I’d never leave him.
But that doesn’t mean that our relationship wouldn’t change if he cheated on me or something like that. I believe that a marriage is a lot more than just the romantic relationship between two people, and even if that part of the relationship changes (which it’s bound it for a lot more reasons than just infidelity) that doesn’t mean the whole thing is over. It just seems like divorce is too “easy” these days, it’s almost like it’s a FIRST option, instead of the LAST option for a lot of people…
Am I alone in this? What are the circumstances that would have you considering divorce?