(Closed) Check and mail…RSVP

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
52 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

i would try them and again and perhaps leave a polite message or email that says since you have not heard from them you believe they will not be coming.

Post # 4
106 posts
Blushing bee

I’d give it a little more time if possible, since you’re still six weeks out.  My e-mail to non-responders had the wedding date as the subject line and said something like, "Hopefully you received your invitation to my wedding on June 7th.  If you haven’t already, please let me know whether you’ll be able to make it.  Thanks!" 

I bcc’ed all the recipients so as not to draw attention to their names!

Post # 5
106 posts
Blushing bee

Oh, I just re-read your message and saw that you have already tried to contact them.  In that case, I guess I’d make my best guess about whether they’ll show…..I also might enlist the help of whoever put them on the guest list….and if I still didn’t know, then I guess I’d assume that about half of them will show up, just to be on the safe side.

Sorry; that is a frustrating situation!  Recently on the Web somewhere I saw a lovely engraved little card that said, "Are you coming or what?"  🙂

Post # 6
508 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

maryalison’s plan is great, though you may want to follow-up by phone if you haven’t had luck reaching the missing links via email (or try email if phone didn’t work).

for those of us planning or otherwise intimately involved with a wedding, 6 weeks is super close.  for the average guest, particularly locals, it can seem to be ages away.  not everyone knows you need to give a head count to the caterer or send out additional invites if they won’t be coming.  do your best to hunt them down and procure an answer.  if they are still MIA, they may turn up on the day of – do you have any wiggle room in case a few extra show?  not sure if I read correctly that your total is 30 guests or if there were 30 people who haven’t responded.  either way – completely annoying!



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