check cashing etiquette?

posted 5 months ago in Etiquette
Post # 16
603 posts
Busy bee

I have never heard this. I don’t think you are in the wrong here. I’ve always heard you should cash them ASAP.

Post # 17
1753 posts
Buzzing bee

Checks should be cashed promptly. But that means thank you notes need to go out promptly, too. Just like physical gifts I won’t use the gift or cash the check until I have sent the thank you note. But there is no need to wait until they received the thank you note. Because you have no way of controlling how long it takes to reach them. That’s up to the post office. You also can’t guarantee that party receiving the thank you note will contact you to let you know it has been received. They aren’t going to thank you for your thank you note. And unless you are paying extra or certified delivery you just have to assume that it arrives fairly promptly after you mailed it.  No one will think it is rude to see their check cashed so long as the thank you note arrived within a few days after.  I only side eye it if it is weeks or months later.  I think you are just fine. 

Post # 18
265 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Some people take 3 months to send thank you cards. I would be irriated and/or worried they didn’t receive the gift. I’d definitely tell them they’re wrong on this.

Post # 19
332 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Cash the checks! I had one couple that waited a year to cash their check – I saw it hit my bank account and was surprised that they had waited that long! Another couple emailed me a year later to ask if they could cash it, and I said yes, and they still haven’t! So odd. I think you are fine.

Post # 20
1601 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I always sendteh thank you note before cashing the check (immediately after receiving it), but I don’t consciously wait to ensure the note is delivered prior to cashing the check.

Post # 21
1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Cash the checks ASAP! I hate when I give a check and it takes weeks or MONTHS for them to cash.

Sometimes people could totally forget they wrote a check and it could cause them to go into negative…I would hate for that to happen!

Post # 22
6687 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

I was always taught check etiquette is you cash it ASAP unless the issuer requests otherwise.  

Post # 23
4243 posts
Honey bee

financegal87 :  checks should be cashed ASAP so people can manage their account. I get SUPER annoyed when I have a check floating for a long time. Especially where you get the thank you notes out in the mail within the same week you’re totally fine. It’s cashing the check and then sending notes out months later that’s crappy. 

Post # 24
699 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017 - Cottage

Oh shit good thing I read this. I got a cheque as a shower gift and one for the wedding gift from FIs granny like a month ago and still have not cashed it. Oh my. I didnt know about this rule!! 😔😳😩

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