Post # 17
Member2702 posts
Sugar bee
- missjyc
- 11 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
i dont think she meant anything by it… unless that’s like her to sneakily imply something?
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MemberPost # 18
Member6659 posts
Bee Keeper
- moderndaisy
- 11 years ago
- Wedding: May 2010
@Missasb – Actually, we did speak (sort of) when I posted my WW on facebook – she messaged me and congratulated us. So it’s not like she’s a really bad person. I just feel like those two comments “I didn’t know the date” and “Who else from (our college) are you inviting” were slight jabs at me 1) trying to imply she might be on the B list and ‘uncovering’ it and 2) wanting the ‘gossip’ about who is invited instead of wishing me a nice wedding.
Post # 19
Member6659 posts
Bee Keeper
- moderndaisy
- 11 years ago
- Wedding: May 2010
@missjyc – it’s funny that you say that b/c it is sort of her personality to take those little jabs at people. They aren’t outright snarky and may or may not be interpreted as an outright jab, but I think that’s how she means it.
I actually forgot how rude she can be over the years, but now I remember. I feel like she hasn’t learned any manners as she’s gotten older, that is a very strange response to the bride who just invited you to her wedding!
Post # 20
Member18628 posts
Honey Beekeeper
- MrsSaltWaterTaffy
- 11 years ago
- Wedding: June 2009
I’m not sure if that’s what she was doing but thinking about it, I would have been hurt if they didn’t say somthing like “I’m so sorry I can’t be there. I bet it will be wonderful though!”
Post # 21
Member1897 posts
Buzzing bee
- VirginiaMarie
- 11 years ago
- Wedding: December 2010
Oh gosh, I am trying to see it…but I don’t really. Honestly, that is something that I would type if I was in a rush or something! Plus, your email was very brief and to the point, and she responded the same way. I say shrug it off!
Post # 22
Member435 posts
Helper bee
- lynnabby
- 11 years ago
I can’t see anything rude either. I’d say forget it.
Post # 23
Member8028 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
- eeniebeans
- 11 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
She could have offered more congratulations, but I don’t really think it was rude. It is hard to read inflection in emails.
Post # 24
Member1565 posts
Bumble bee
- GirlWithARing
- 11 years ago
I can’t see anything wrong with her email, sorry 🙂 I really think it was a normal email written in a hurry.
EDIT: Also, I didn’t know there was a taboo against asking who else from a mutual group of acquaintances is invited…she was probably curious on what she was missing out on and/or just trying to seem interested.
Post # 25
Member1980 posts
Buzzing bee
- Miss Leopard
- 11 years ago
- Wedding: March 2014
There is nothing rude there at ALL. Please take a step back and don’t throw her under the bus for this! You’re reading way too much into it.
Post # 26
Member1882 posts
Buzzing bee
- flamingred
- 11 years ago
- Wedding: June 2010
I think that her response was fine in response to the email you gave. She was just trying to be nice I think- getting the scoop in a friendly way.
Post # 27
Member377 posts
Helper bee
- Circus Peanut
- 11 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
Yeah, her response definitely didn’t seem rude to me either. I think it’s a stretch to assume she was referencing the STD…to me saying “Oh no, sorry, I didn’t know it was on X date, I have other plans!” is pretty innocent. You’ll have enough to stress about with wedding planning, don’t worry about it!
Post # 28
Member1269 posts
Bumble bee
- Talishazwi
- 11 years ago
- Wedding: January 2011
I agree it’s harmless and she didn’t mean anything by it. I think she was just making conversation and her e-mail was to the point. At least she responded! 🙂 I think she was trying to explain why she had a vacation planned over your wedding so you wouldn’t be offended. You could always respond and say “ah man, I knew we should’ve sent save the dates. Too bad. I’m not sure who all is coming yet since we are just getting around to finalizing the guest list.”
Post # 29
Member5822 posts
Bee Keeper
- MightySapphire
- 11 years ago
Sounds to me like she was explaining to you why she scheduled a Hawaiian vacation…like because she didn’t know the date.
Also she’s probably being VERY polite asking who else is invited to the wedding so that she doesn’t talk about it to any of your mutual friends and accidentally find out that they were never invited! That would be very awkward for her, and it is best that she asks you about it directly.
I don’t see the “jabs.” I think maybe you should let her know if any mutual friends were invited, and leave it at that.
Post # 30
Member369 posts
Helper bee
Post # 31
Member838 posts
Busy bee
- Sep_Queen
- 11 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
Hmm i dont see anything wrong about it, but her question about other college friends was a little odd.
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