Post # 1
I feel really checked out of the wedding planning process. The big day is 6 weeks away and today my Fiance told me that he’s getting discouraged because I’m so checked out at this point. He has a point…I’m starting to throw my hands up at every decision left (which unfortunately is quite a bit). For example, we picked out our venue in October. His parents expressed early on that we should consider having a shuttle transport the guests from ceremony to reception. FI and I have clearly stated that we think guests will be able to use a rideshare option (venues are in a very large/bustling city) and have written directions/links on our wedding website. It is now JUNE and they are still putting that option on the table. Yes, they are contributing a fair amount of money for the wedding. Honestly, at this point, I don’t care. If they want to organize the shuttle situation, they can do it.
Anyway, there are other situations like this, but this is the latest.
Help! Is anyone else feeling checked out of wedding planning?
Post # 2
My wedding is in 6 weeks as well! But I am not checked out. I am the opposite and just super stressed about every detail wanting to make the right decision. I am very happy that my time planning is nearly over. So I feel your pain. 😂
Post # 3
runsauce : Sorry you and your fiance are feeling this way, bee! *hugs*
I’m not feeling the way you are, but my fiance did just lightly “scold” me today for not finishing some major items. The main one bring the invitation for our October wedding! But, it will all get done in due time, and at the end of this process you will be married to the love of your life!
Let them get the darn shuttle, girl. It doesn’t even matter. 😉 xoxo
Post # 4
Yes yes and yes.
I’m less than 4 weeks out. I have a hair/makeup trial tm and I don’t even know what I want/ didn’t wash my hair. Idgaf right now- I’m tired lol.
Also btw: my dad is obsessed with having a shuffle option also
Post # 5
This is how I felt the last few months leading up to our wedding. I was tired of making decisions. I really didn’t give a shit anymore lol.
Post # 6
Awww I feel you! No one says I’ve checked out, but I am crazy focused when I get busy, I just put my head down and work work work. It doesn’t help that I don’t love some wedding stuff so sometimes I just wanna roll my eyes and forget it!
could you maybe ask them next time they mention the shuttle if they would mind organizing it?
Post # 7
I keep going through bouts of being hyper focused and checking out. Our wedding is 6 months out (today!) and I’ll go for a week not thinking much or not wanting to plan anything, then start doing things and get excited. We need to get our save the date’s out but I just keep not being able to bring myself to doing the finishing touches.
Post # 8
Yeah, I understand where you’re at. I got an email 5 weeks before the wedding asking how I wanted napkins folded. I said I couldn’t care less as long as they served the purpose of cleaning hands. Then I was asked about “off white,” or “eggshell,” I told Darling Husband it’s his circus now, “I’m done. I’m just showing up on the day.”
The napkins ended up being navy, and I don’t even remember how they were folded. I’ve never heard one person comment on how napkins were folded and just didn’t care about that incredibly insignificant and pointless (to me) detail.
I get some people have a vision for how everything looks at their wedding, I didn’t. I found the bombardment of questions overwhelming and not at all “fun.” So, totally understand where you’re coming from – I checked out too because the important stuff was done. The lights being 9″ or 11″ from the ceiling was something I just didn’t care to invest in.
Post # 9
In the same boat… Closer I get to the wedding the less I want to do.
Post # 10
- Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course
Lately I’m flip flopping between being totally over it and wanting the day over with vs. being mildly excited. It depends on what needs doing. Thankfully at this point there isn’t much left. I never had a ‘vision’ I don’t care if linens are ivory or white and I dang sure don’t feel like wasting time choosing between 8 different napkin folding styles. 8! Just put them on the frickin tables.
MsPlucky : I get it
Post # 11
I understand it. My wedding was ages ago, but I still remember the feeling that something had to be done, some call to make, something to take care of.
Then realizing the wedding was past, and a feeling of freedom came over me. Anything that wasn’t done for the wedding, didn’t have to be done. And no one noticed!
Post # 12
runsauce : My wedding is in around a month and most of the stuff is done, but I am so OVER it. I had a similar situation with my Father-In-Law about hotel room blocks. I’m honestly just telling myself to focus on the experience and my loved ones at this point because I feel like I’m slowly going crazy. Just know you’re not alone!
Post # 13
I hear you.
We’re being graciously hosted at my FI’s boss’ house. I was there a few weeks ago and she was asking me what I thought of this-this-and-that. She gave me a few funny looks and must have thought I was completely checked out because I just answered, “sounds good” or “okay” to everything. Well, it’s HER house, and I don’t really care about the minutiae.
I know I wouldn’t feel guilty about being checked out on things other people were telling me to do. In the case of the parentals wanting a shuttle (or anything else), they can pay for it and arrange it. 😛
Post # 14
Lol I reached the same point around this time in wedding planning. It’s called decision overload. You just reach a point where you no longer care about anything. What color tablecloths do you want? Cream? ok great, what color napkins tho? I DONT FUCKNG CARE JUST PICK SOMETHING. Do the grooms want black or brown leather on their boutineers? FUCK ME WHO CARES!!!! Every vendor is coming at you asking you to make more decisions and it just gets to be too much!
Hang in there bee, you’re almost there!
Post # 15
Phew! Thanks so much ladies. I’m laughing hysterically and so happy I’m not the only one.