Post # 1
I am finding that while waiting I sometimes check my SO’s emails/history/facebook to see if he’s looked at any rings or sent emails about proposals or anything wedding related! I feel awful for doing it, but I can’t help but look sometimes. I don’t think he minds too much because he lets me use his email and facebook and has told me all his passwords but I can’t help but feeling like a guilty girl! Anyone else do this too or am I the only one??
Post # 3
Nope, never did anything like that. I just wouldn’t have felt right.
Post # 4
I never did. Not only becasue it is an invasion of privacy but also because I wanted it to be a surprise.
Post # 6
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@IslandGirl6: You are going to ruin the surprise!
As for the invasion of privacy, Fiance and I both do it to each other sometimes, so it doesn’t bug me *shrug* Like you said, he gave you the passwords and lets you use his email account.
Post # 7
early in my relationship my boyfriend left his fb open on my computer and I read some of his messages. Bad idea! It just made me jealous and upset for NO reason.
I felt so crappy about it that I told him! He forgave me and I definitely will NEVER do it again, even for “waiting” purposes.
But- I have friends that do this all the time.
Post # 8
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
Uh, no….I just don’t think that’s cool to do, even if he gave you his passwords.
Post # 9
Don’t get caught up in the “end goal” of getting that ring. Really, just enjoy the journey. Once you get the ring, you may wish you hadn’t been so impatient. Just let it be genuine, and let it happen. I’ve been with my SO for 8 1/2 years btw, so I am practicing what I am preaching lol. I got impatient and bitchy a couple years ago and I wasn’t able to boss him into getting me a room, and I am very grateful he didn’t cave at that time. Anyway, you may not even be trying to coerce him like I tried so that my be beside the point. I’m just saying, just let it be a surprise.
Post # 10
I think it is different for us because we both use each other’s emails and facebook constantly. My email on my iphone is actually his because he uses my iphone so much. He knows I am on his accounts all the time and it doesn’t bother him but I do feel bad checking still! To be fair, he uses my accounts often too.
I think I do this because I hate surprises (always have) and I don’t really want to be surprised but I know my SO wants to surprise me so I should really stop looking. I hope to quit this bad habit and just let him surprise me 🙂 Wish me luck!
Thanks for the insight bee’s!
Post # 12
My husband has told me that my computer is free to him. If I wanted to look at his e-mails, or his facebook, or whatever, I can.
But that doesn’t mean I will.
Just because you can do something doesn’t mean you should. Saying “But they gave me the passwords!” does not mean that you should go romping through their private files and their private life.
I absolutely would never read my husband’s e-mails.
Post # 13
Early on, I would check his browser history maybe like once a month to see if he looked at rings. I guess I did it maybe 3 times total because I didn’t want to talk about an engagement and be pushy if he was already looking at rings. Once I was sure he wasn’t looking at rings, I suggested we look together and he was so happy and relieved. BUT, if I HAD seen that he was browsing ring websites, I would have not opened them to see what he was looking at. I didn’t want to ruin any surprises… but I still wanted to know that we were moving towards an engagement eventually… ya know? It took my FH 5 years to propose and I really didnt want to wait another 5.
Post # 14
No way. I don’t think anything could justify invading another’s privacy like that, even if passwords were offered. Before we became engaged, especially, I would never consider looking through his personal business like that. That’s just a line of trust I would not and will not cross, no matter what I was hoping to discover.
Post # 15
I used to use FH’s Facebook to play Sims Social with myself (with his permission, of course!) but I wouldn’t check it all the time just because, even though I have all his passwords.
Post # 16
I have never checked my FI’s phone, email, Facebook, etc. even when I knew a proposal was in the near future. I intend to maintain that habit forever, I think it’s really sneaky and untrusting when people (usually it’s women) snoop. We have nothing to hide but have no reason to look through each other’s things. Just say no!!