Post # 1
So I really hate to text people a million times or send countless facebook messages, it’s just not me. I’ve been engaged for 7 months now & I think I’ve sent 2 total to the BMs. Well we picked out the dresses & I decided I want them to get them from Netbride.com… So I sent them a message with all the order info and told them to let me know once they order them and everything. Well I need them to be ordered by the end of this week and I have not heard from a single Bridesmaid or Best Man about ordering it.
I don’t want to be annoying but I mean come on, it’s my wedding & I’m not trying to be a bridezilla, I just want them to have their dresses with enough time to get altered if needed. Am I crazy or is anyone else feel like they need to stay on top of them?
How are you keeping track of it all, or are your BMs actually on top of things?
Post # 3
I had this same exact problem and I finally emailed them with a deadline “that the salon gave me” and they all called and ordered on that last possible day. I didn’t want to continuously follow up with all of them in a micromanaging fashion so this worked very well. The day after my made-up deadline I called the salon and they had all ordered the dresses.
Post # 4
I would just text them. I just had to do this with my girls and it was fine. I just said that I was checking in on them to see if they had any questions about ordering the dress (the netbride order form can be confusing). Gently remind them of the deadline and talk to them about other things. Like you are just mentioning it in passing. I think both fo my girls waited and now have to pay rush fees, but they ordered within a week of reminding them, and they both let me know they ordered.
This is the only reason I decided not to go through netbride for their dresses, because this way I can call the salon and check to see if they ordered without being a complete pain.
Hope This Helps
Post # 5
I would skip texting and FB and write them an email. When you are trying to convey lots of information a text can be annoying and some people do not check their FB. Could you not have them pay you and you order the dresses?
To avoid this issue I hosted a bridal luncheon where we got together for lunch out and our seamstress came and measured all the girls and the girls paid for their dresses. Done and done. 🙂 This way I am not depending on them to do something and they were given plenty of time to save money.
For their shoes I plan on having everyone bring theirs to either the bachelorette or bridal shower as the fittings will be happening one at a time. This will also give them more time to look for a replacement if needed. In the same email that I discussed hair/make-up options with them I reminded them about their shoes. More information in a few emails is a ton better than 20 short emails. GL!
Post # 6
@baletrina: the lunch idea is great, I would I could have done something like that. My BM’s are all over the country right now. It’s so difficult to get together I have a feeling there won’t be a bachlorette or anything since no one will really be able to travel until day or two before wedding.
Thanks for all the feedback though, I would do the email route but I have some cousins (who I contacted their moms as well) that never check email and same with some of the others. The deadline is this Thursday and I’m just hoping everyone gets it ordered. It’s just making me a little nervous. lol.
Post # 7
i spam my girls lol. ok not really but they do get at least 2 emails a month from me with updates on the planning etc.
i also arrange a lunch/shopping/nails/drinks/something date every couple of months so we all hang out together and i use that as a time to check-in as well.
i got engaged nov ’10 and had my girls all lined up by jan ’11 (9 total). they all know i’m type a/ocd/anal so all my craziness came as no surprise to anyone and they’ve actually said they appreciate the influx of info bc it means less things for them to think about and keep on top of if i’m doing it. whenever they need to do/buy something i usually just send an email with the link and all the pertinent info and bingo-bango they’re done!