(Closed) Checks for weddings gifts months before the wedding

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What would you do?
    Write a thank you, and cash the check immediately? : (17 votes)
    89 %
    Wait until after the wedding to cash the check, but send a thank you immediately? : (2 votes)
    11 %
    Wait until after the wedding to cash the check and write the thank you? : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    1036 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I don’t think that there is anything wrong with cashing it.  Stick it in a fund for your honeymoon, or items off the registry that you don’t get.  Just cause you cash it doesn’t mean you have to spend it yet. 😉  Also, they might have wanted you to have it before the wedding to pay for wedding extras (nicer jewelry, a little splurge on pampering yourself, etc).  I would expect you to cash it if I sent it.

    Post # 4
    4520 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Definitely cash it now. When I write a check, I *always* want the recipient to cash it immediately — otherwise it messes up my accounting. 

    You can wait till after your wedding to actually use the cash, but I wouldn’t delay in depositing anything. 

    Post # 5
    375 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I forgot where I read it (maybe Dear Abby?), but I have heard that you should cash the checks and write a thank you note upon receipt, regardless of when your wedding is scheduled. Like you said, it would be rude to the giver to make them remember an uncashed check they wrote months ago.

    Post # 6
    4485 posts
    Honey bee

    Most checks have a timeframe that they must be cashed or deposited within (3 months max). If you wait till after that time to cash them, the check will be void.

    Send out thank you notes asap.

    Post # 8
    1474 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    Yup! Cash it!

    ETA: Oops. I was a little late haha. <3 Good choice!

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