Post # 1
Hi Bees – Quick question!
I just had my Bridal shower. It was in PA and I live in FL. Due to the distance, a lot of family is not coming to the wedding. During my Bridal shower weekend, some family gave checks as specifically wedding gifts. This is still 2 months before the wedding.
Do you cash the check now… or after the wedding? I thought it was ‘wrong’ to use wedding gifts before the wedding… but I’d also be annoyed that I have a sizeable check out floating around.
Post # 3
I don’t think that there is anything wrong with cashing it. Stick it in a fund for your honeymoon, or items off the registry that you don’t get. Just cause you cash it doesn’t mean you have to spend it yet. 😉 Also, they might have wanted you to have it before the wedding to pay for wedding extras (nicer jewelry, a little splurge on pampering yourself, etc). I would expect you to cash it if I sent it.
Post # 4
Definitely cash it now. When I write a check, I *always* want the recipient to cash it immediately — otherwise it messes up my accounting.
You can wait till after your wedding to actually use the cash, but I wouldn’t delay in depositing anything.
Post # 5
I forgot where I read it (maybe Dear Abby?), but I have heard that you should cash the checks and write a thank you note upon receipt, regardless of when your wedding is scheduled. Like you said, it would be rude to the giver to make them remember an uncashed check they wrote months ago.
Post # 6
Most checks have a timeframe that they must be cashed or deposited within (3 months max). If you wait till after that time to cash them, the check will be void.
Send out thank you notes asap.
Post # 7
Thanks bees! Wrote the thank yous and I’m sending out my checks (bank by mail) asap. Thanks for all your quick replies!
Post # 8
Yup! Cash it!
ETA: Oops. I was a little late haha. <3 Good choice!