(Closed) Cheer me up?

posted 4 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
408 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

First, I’m so so sorry you’re going through this!! Secondly, I don’t know how much of a consolation  this will be, but the baby you do end up having with your Fiance will be even more appreciated and special because then it’s your “miracle” baby. ๐Ÿ™‚ then you can celebrate even more when you have that baby. Miscarriage is hard. ๐Ÿ™ but things WILL be better! 

Post # 3
392 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I hate saying, “it was meant to be”, but maybe someone else has better plans in store for you? I can only imagine how you’re feeling right now, but I know some day (probably sooner than you think) things will turn around. Maybe you and your husband should throw a pity party together? Do something fun together to say, “Yeah, this sucks, but we still have each other”?

Anywho, I don’t know if I helped at all, but regardless: condolences to you and all my prayers for a better future!

Post # 4
1032 posts
Bumble bee

I’m so sorry that happened, ***hugs***

It WILL be ok, I promise. Give yourself time to heal and grieve. Remind yourself that it’s ok to feel sad, to cry, to yell, etc. A miscarriage is a traumatic event; don’t be hard on yourself/blame yourself. 

If you find that your husband is having a REALLY hard time, you may consider a few sessions with a therapist to help him.

And many women have experienced miscarriages, and many of them get pregnant again and have healthy pregnancies/healthy babies. ๐Ÿ™‚

**hugs again**

Post # 5
287 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Peaceoutboyscout:  I am so sorry for your loss. 

but I can assure you that time does help to heal. So take all the time you want and find comfort and support in each other. 

You may not fully get over it- I know I haven’t, but the initial heart breaking sting slowly starts to fade

hang in there – tomorrow will be easier than today

Post # 6
11105 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Peaceoutboyscout: Ooh I’m so sorry to see this. Hugs! Let the grief out otherwise it will inbed itself inside. Everything will be OK and on a positive you caught. 

Post # 10
3363 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I’m so sorry for your loss.  I am currently miscarrying as well.  I had a D&C last Wednesday and just waiting to get back to normal.  I have a daughter too, and I will make her a sibling eventually!  Pm me if you want to.

Post # 11
728 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I am so sorry this happened. I completely understand it because I went through it with an unexpected pregnancy as well. There needs to be a grieving time but it does get much better. For me, I became excited at the thought of having a ababy with my Fiance because we do plan to have children and so it was a loss but then after that there was this peaceful feeling of “OK, now we can plan better and we can move forward”. Do see a therapist if you need to talk it out. I can promise you, it will get better!!! Focus on the things in life you enjoy, take care of yourself and take it a day at a time.

Post # 12
2905 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m so sorry for your loss. Miscarriage is a really difficult, heartbreaking experience. Your grief might be more intense than you expect or last for longer than you’d think, but trust me – it really does get better. 

It’s okay to have a pity party for a while, though. It’s a really shitty thing to go through and a lot of people who haven’t experienced might not understand exactly how shitty it is. And I think it’s always better to let yourself grieve and feel the loss rather than bottle it up inside.

What helps me is remembering how incredibly common miscarriage is – that so many women go through it, but they all do get through it. You find a strength that you didn’t know you had. And eventually you will begin to heal – probably sooner than you think. 

Hang in there. I’m sending you lots of internet hugs. 

Post # 15
2493 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Peaceoutboyscout:  “I feel like I should be over it.”

Sorry to thread-jack, but I just wanted to chime in…

I suffered a MC back in October, but I’m in no way over the grief… I don’t think I ever will be. That being said, some days are harder than others; some days I don’t think about it at all. Also, like you, everyone around me just kind of brushed it aside like something was wrong, so it was meant to happen. My husband was in complete denial about the pregnancy to begin with, too, so losing the baby didn’t phase him at all… and that’s made everything harder to deal with. <br />You’re not too sensitive at all, my darling… no one knows what it’s like until they’re in the situation. I find healing in opening up about my experience. But, as I was saying, it never goes away. It’s something that will always be with you now, a place in your heart that can’t be filled by anything or anyone else.<br /><br />*hugs*.

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